in may 2004 i met the love of my life and for the subsequent two years we shared a mutual fairytale romance together. he was my best friend and my soulmate and he understood me like no other person ever has or i believe ever will. one day we even hoped to marry and have a baby. it was to my great distress that in may of this year he left me without telling me why it later transpired that due to distance issues he thought we werent spending enough time together this has left me in a million pieces and ever since the dreadful day i have just been walking around in a grief sodden haze i just dont know what to do with myself and sometimes contemplate suicide. i have tried talking to him but he wont listen and for thse who will tell me that i will meet someone else i have dated several men over the course of the smmer and autumn and although they were very nice i know that i can never hve the same connection with anyone ever again. what can i do? how can i get him back?
2006-12-01 06:05:06 · 26 answers · asked by tania 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have even tried asking him to just be friends but he says that we have too much passion for each other for this to ever be possible
2006-12-01 06:07:35 · update #1
I fell in love with my best friend and had this secret love for one another for years. He was also my first, and I thought that I could never feel this for anyone else. He got married, it crushed me, divorced, made me happy, then got married, again crushed, and then had a baby... imagine how I felt (I know that you could). Everything came out last year by accident and he and I discussed it. He admitted to always being inlove with me and was too scared to admit it. He wanted to leave her for me and everything. After contiplating it, I realized that he could leave me for someone else too and having his child would not matter. So I said no, that I would not do that. It had been seven years since I had a boyfriend and I always compared my dates to him. (He and I were always friends) All the men were jerks with good hearts but still jerks. Point is, I met this guy this year who swept me away and now I am pregnant with his kid. Im inlove with this guy and never thought that it was possible. Just keep living day to day and when you least expect it... he will come. I met this guy though a friend, 3 months later I found him on myspace, became friends and here we are. Have faith. Keep your head up. It will happen.
2006-12-01 06:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by kellieghr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 08:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very sad story, in which I had to deal with the exact same thing. My ex g/f lived 5 hours away, and we were together for about 2 solid years, and then one day she ended it, no reason, and I was shattered inside. I put all my hope, faith and trust in this lady, and she turned her back. Now here is the exciting part, I had God the whole time, and He always was and always is still there. I went to Him for help, and now I am better than ever. You see, when we put all of our hopes and trust in a person, we are walking a dangerous line, because we are all human, and we all make mistakes and let people down one time or another. God, however, will never let us down, never will He forsake us. He loves us with a love that we are all seeking to find, and that is unfailing love. He loves you so much that it overflows, like a cup under a waterfall, it is never ending. So seek God, and I promise you will find Him, and you will be filled with a love and joy that you have never experienced before.
2006-12-01 06:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing for you to do would be not try and get back with him yet but try to tell him how you feel. Trying to get back with him without him knowing what you're feeling will only push him further away. If he doesn't want the relationship though then there is nothing that you can do to make him be in it. However if you were to commit suicide it would definitely hurt him for the rest of his life because he would feel it was his fault and if you care about him as much as you make it seem then you wouldn't do that to him. Just give it time. But if he doesn't want to get back together then I think that you shouldn't take your feelings out on other guys because that will drive them away. Good luck though and I really hope that everything works out for you.
2006-12-01 06:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you sufferred such a devastating loss. Are you near family or friends that can support during in this time?
After this terrible breakup, it's understandable that you wouldn't be ready to date anyone else. What you need right now is support and time to heal. It will take many months to get over this.
The suicidal thoughts you are having, makes me think that this devastating loss may have caused you to slip into depression. I lost my job and couldn't find work for 8 months. This caused me to slip into depression and I had suicidal thoughts similar to yours.
My doctor prescribed an anti-depressant, and it helped me survive not only the uncertainty of finding a new job but also the breakup of my marriage.
I would seriously consider making an appointment with your family physician to talk about you possible need for a short-term perscription to get you through this.
As for getting your fiance back, that may or may not happen.
Maybe he got scared that the two of you had gotten so involved, and backed out because he really wasn't ready for a lifelong commitment. People can do strange things, and they don't always make sense.
However it turns out, you've got to take care of yourself. Please talk to someone about this and get the help you need and deserve.
2006-12-01 06:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Picasso 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well tania...
This is hard to say, but it seems as if he may not return. Unfortunately for all of us romantics...not all relationships continute to be the "happily ever after fairytale."
I do admit i found a loving person in 2004 and we got together. It was great at first but in the end we didnt spend enough time with eachother. It was my fault afterall. And I still feel pain after it even if i try to move on...
so you arent alone...
I suggest being with close friends for some time....take a time off the bonds of a relationship and embrace the friends around you. Try talking to him again too if you really want him back. Try going out "as friends"
I can't guarantee that going out as friends will work, but at least you are able to spend time with him...painful...but at least he will be closer to you in yourheart and soul.
good luck and may everything turn out alright.
2006-12-01 06:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Hideo Okino 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but you have to be strong. This man is not your life and there are much more fascinating things/places/people around you. Don't rush into new relationship - you need time to sort you minds/feelings/emotions out. All you have to do now - spoil yourself, because you are the most important person at the moment. Being single is not so bad sometimes - you are allowed to be selfish. Get back to activities you used to enjoy or try something you always wanted, but never had time, go out and explore the world around!
2006-12-01 06:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sauluzia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first sentence inspired me write this. The 2 words "fairytale romance". No such thing sweetie.If it was a fairytale then its a nightmare now. I'd rather move on with my life than to cling to hopes that he will return. Dont even try he isnt worth contemplating suicide.No one is worth that effort. Sure it was fun while it lasted. Nothing last forever.So get over it.Seek counseling if it gets to that point but dont let it fester and do something stupid. Good luck.
2006-12-01 06:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is more than just a bit of saddness. You should consult a doctor about counselling and maybe some medication sounds like you may have depression. Don't try and get him back the best thing for you is to manage on your own at the moment you seem to have become dependant upon this one person for all your love and affection you need to find that without him you can be just as happy but to do this you need to be secure on your own without the feelings of him which you dont seem to be at the moment.
2006-12-01 06:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by mintycakeyfroggy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cold runner just said what i would have said if he hadn't said it
the only thing i would add is if distance is truly the issue then why have you not contemplated moving house to be closer to him?
if he doesn't want you and is using this as an excuse, just beg him for the truth because it will help you move on. if he meant what he said then he should be fine with you moving closer to him and if you want him that much you should be fine with uprooting your life for him.
but you are too desperate for your own good. it's not healthy. find some emotional independance because it will help you lead your life better. i have been where you are now, it took me a few months but i got over it. you should try giving yourself sometime and sorting the rest of your life out, or just improving it if you can.
2006-12-01 06:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋