My son is 17years old and my daughter is 7 years old and its hard to give them good things for christmas. because i give to them all the time. I think i do this because when i was a child me and my brothers and sister never had anything growing up. but. a hard time from a step father that mistreated us.we whent through hell as children.and i am determand my kids want have hard times like that my sister and brother are the same way that i am about there kids thats why we give so much to our kids.with lots of love.
2006-12-01 05:58:46 · 9 answers · asked by Panda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't believe it is wrong to spoil your kids as long as you teach them respect and morals. I mean I really hope their not so spoiled that nobody wants to be around them. And your 17 year old you need to start preparing him for getting out on his own. Good luck and I honestly hope they never have to deal with hard times.
2006-12-01 06:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Anybody (including me) can overdo a good thing. Its great to provide for your kids. Your growing up story is an old one that we've heard many times. What you have to decide if your poor childhood will affect your kids by making them not appreciate things. You give too much, and you'll create an expectation that will be hard to live up too each year. Bottom line, you're setting yourself up for failure because eventually you'll stop and they will resent you for not to continue spoiling them.
Get them stuff they need and once in a while get them special stuff. But, you give them special stuff all the time and you're messing your kids up. Is it okay with you to make yourself feel better while you're kids are becoming brats?
Think about it.
2006-12-01 14:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its very wrong,do you want them to walk all over you? thats the worst thing to do is spoil your children.no one is going to like them.you can give them as much love as you want with hugs and kisses not money and more money.but it might be a little too late for that now huh.spoiled kids become disrespectful and bad attitude...
2006-12-01 14:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by d4rkprincess84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, although I do not agree with just giving any child whatever they want without working for it, I think it is your decision.
The reason I do not think it is right is because one day they will find out that NOT everything they want will be handed to them. They will have to learn a hard lesson when they find they will have to WORK for it & that they are not simply entitled...
2006-12-01 14:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to give things to your children, but make sure they also have to do things for themselves or they will have a hard time making it in the world.
2006-12-01 14:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to spoil your children. only if they take advantage of it. my stepfather spoils me. I started acting like a rich #!@%& . i took atvantage of it and it back fired on me. just be careful i guess. if they start giving attitude if you don't buy them something it would be a good time to start toning down. but it's perfectly fine to give them what they want as long as you watch them to see if they're respecting you for getting them what they want. my advice is just to be careful.
2006-12-01 15:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by kasey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT IT'S NOT WRONG TO SPOIL A KID IF ONLY SHE/HE LEARNS TO VALUE IT. IT ALSO DEPENDS IF YOU SHOW THEM GOOD MORALS...OF BEING RESPOSIBLE BECAUSE IF THEY ARE ALWAYS MISS BEHAVING AND THEIR STILL GETTING WHAT THEY WANT...THAT WRONG! SOMETIMES WHEN A PARENTS OVER SPOIL THEIR KIDS..THEIR KIDS TO VALUE WHAT THEY ARE GIVEN AND THE PARENTS ARE ALWAYS IN DEBT BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY BUY THEIR KIDS. YOU AT LEAST NEED TO EXPLAIN TO YOUR KIDS THAT IF YOU EVER ARE IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU DON'T HAVE MONEY TO BUY WHAT THEY WANT, THAT THEY UNDERSTAND THAT AND NOT GET MAD AND MISBEHAVE.. AGAIN IT JUST DEPENDS ON THE KIDS AND HOW YOU HAVE DICIPLINED THEM ... IF THEIR GOOD KIDS AND THEY TAKE CARE OF THEIR STUFF...I THINK YOU'RE DOING NOTHING WRONG AS LONG IT DOESN'T GET YOU INTO PROBLEMS LIKE DEBT!
2006-12-01 14:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Maria A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are a lot of ways of spoiling your children with a lot of things ,,,other than material poss. do it with love,chairty, joy,respect, honor, ,,,,, i do understand where you are comeing from.. i do believe that all children should learn the value of a dollar,, by doing some small jobs and completeing them.
2006-12-01 14:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by RED WHITE AND BLUE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give them a few less stuff then you can get stuff for them for christmas!!
2006-12-01 15:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋