I fell for a guy who was so CUTE, goofy, funny, silly, laidback and just plain adorable. I soon realized he was like this when he was smoking pot....when he was stoned!!! He had to do it everyday, before work, after work, before going to see a movie in the movie theaters, before eating at a restaurant. I LOVED his cute charatersitics but when he did not get his marijuana fix he was VERY irritable....always jealous, easily would get mad and his temper would go up. He was never happy and fun without having his pot fix. I hated that he NEEDED TO DO POT to make me attracted to him. It's like i met some perfect person but they needed this substance to make them perfect. I tried to help him. He never wanted to stop..... It is so hard to move on....cause will I find these cute characteristics again....with someone who doesnt need a drug??? Why did I fall for him so......
2006-12-01 05:57:05 · 26 answers · asked by justaquestion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea we can be like that hahaha sucker
2006-12-01 05:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by TheArtistFormalyKnowAsSlavemaker 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
OMG stay far far far away from him. YES you will find someone who has a great personality without having to be a retard and use drugs. I once dated a guy just like you described. I had begged him to stop smoking and he said he did. I found out after 2 years of dating, he'd lied to me the WHOLE TIME. I was FURIOUS. I thought he loved me and obviously he loved weed more. I'm now dating the most amazing guy ever and he has never done a drug in his life. Depending on where you look, most people don't smoke pot 100 times a day. That's not the norm.
2006-12-01 14:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of yourself and move on
Why did you fall for him? I'm not sure, but it has happened many times before. My sister was in a relationship with a guy for about 5 years, she smoked multiple joints each day. He wasted so much money it's embarassing, my sister worked really hard and he didn't, couldn't hold down a job. He was 30 and still the typical hippy. No future, and they fought all the time at the end so she had no choice but to break up with him.
Trust me, if he needs a drug to make you attracted to him and I'm sorry to say that you aren't attracted to him.
2006-12-01 14:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Karce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you were attracted to him and didn't know what was going on beneath the surface is not your fault. That's the nature of relationships. Your attracted, then, overtime you get to really know the person and their core being, and a lot of the time they are not the same person you were drawn to in the beginning. It happens everyday. Just take the high road and tell him he is acting like an irresponsible @sshole who can either grow up or get out! You'll have to be enough of an adult for both of you , and tell him to get it together!! Stay strong!
2006-12-01 14:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by nil8_360 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same position. Great guy when he was high and barely civil when he wasn't. I knew IMMEDIATELY if he had not gotten high for some reason. I also tried to help him, but after 8 years I just gave up. It's hard to walk away from them because they are so they know how to get your sympathy. But believe me, my love is so much more peaceful now that I am off of his rollercoaster. (And I had always thought pot was harmless).
2006-12-01 14:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by justcurious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you better un-fall for a stoner right about NOW!! You will find the things you liked in him somewhere else. Anybody who has to smoke themselves into a personality is worthless in my opinion, breathing air that the rest of us need, and taking up space and the like. Anyway, step away from the stoners. Haven't you noticed how they smell?? YUCK! Go find a good egg.
2006-12-01 14:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Local Celebrity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one......I would say first of all you made the right choice leting hime go. Also he probobly had that attitude all along but without his drugs he is in a semi withdrawel so it changed his personality. Many men are funny loving and a good time without being a stoner
2006-12-01 14:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by hero2allbe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up over falling for this guy. He had his good points and his bad points and in the end you decided it wasn't worth it. Now you just need to go look for someone you like who doesn't need the help of mind-altering substances to be appealing. Such people do exist, and you will find them if you keep looking.
2006-12-01 14:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find someone who doesn't need drugs to be an interesting person. And good for you for moving away from him. Even though it hurts now, you will be better off in the long run.
2006-12-01 14:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up. He's an addict as you now know and YES you will meet a wonderful guy whose natually wonderful. You fell for him because you liked the side that he showed you. How were you to know it wasn't genuine. You are doing the right thing by moving on.
2006-12-01 14:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did so much pot in the 90's that i'll be a little high for the rest of my life. i'll never be 100% sober ever again. even if i quit everything right now. so i got the laid back attitude you like, unfortunately for you i'm already taken.
2006-12-01 14:00:48 · answer #11 · answered by the one and only robertc1985 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋