my girlfriend broke up w/ me around this time last year, and I really, really liked her , but I eventually forgot about her after we broke up. I started meeting other girls, but I never really liked them enough to go out w/ them like i did when i first met my old girlfriend. Anyway, lately i've started to think about her a whole lot, and i've been thinking about calling her and trying to get back together with her. (lol, she broke up w/ me because she decided to get back together w/ her old boyfriend). Do u think trying to get back together w/ her is a good idea?
2006-12-01 05:54:56 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may not be. If she broke your heart before, what is stopping her from doing it again? Let her come to you. You could still call her and just talk, see how she is doing. DO NOT tell her things like, "I miss you" , "I've been thinking about what we used to have", etc. You can say that you saw something that reminded you of her, and just wondered how she was doing. Maybe ask if she wants to hang out, not alone, but with a group of friends. If she starts to show interest, then you could ask her back out.
2006-12-01 05:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Casey B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, no. Trying to get back together is not a good idea.
You are just feeling sentimental because of the holidays. I know you are probably lonely, but you two broke up for a reason and I don't see anything in your post stating that she was interested in getting back together.
In order to get over her (again) I would go out with friends more to places other than pick-up bars, and try a new hobby. You need to get active in your community and you should be able to find a more perfect match than your ex-girlfriend that dumped you during the holidays.
I hope you can get over these feelings. I know it is hard being alone during the holidays but things will get better. Remember two things: #1 She broke up with you. #2 You forgot about her and started meeting other people.
Good luck.
2006-12-01 06:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just let her go. Move on. However long it takes, you will find what you're missing. Never look back. Just keep moving forward. If she wanted to be with you, she would have called you by now. So just keep looking for someone new.
And since she broke up with you for her ex anyway - if you were to get back with her, she is most likely to do it again. So don't take that chance. Good luck and Happy Holidays!
2006-12-01 05:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. 2 reasons: it didn't work out the first time. There was a reason she left-and that was, she wanted someone else more. There are tons of guys in the world. Chances are, if she finds someone else again she wants more, there's nothing to keep her from doing it again.
#2-it was disrespectful to you to leave you for an ex. It doesn't seem like she values you enough to a-make it work b-treat you with the respect you deserve.
In closing, I would like to point out that if you did get back together, she would think it was ok to do that kind of thing again and would think you would still be there for her if she wanted to come back.
Again, NO, whatever your heart is telling you.
2006-12-01 06:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by ladygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You're missing the companionship of the relationship, which is perfectly natural. However she made a decision to leave you for another man, and if she hasn't come back to you, than she's not regretting her decision.
You would do well to forget about her. Focus on yourself right now, and don't be so fixated on being in a "relationship". Enjoy the single life (responsibly of course) and when you're least expecting it you'll find someone...or someone will find you!
2006-12-01 05:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the only reason why you want to get back with your exgirlfriend was because she was the only one you have ever liked at that level and the only reason why you are thinking about her is because of how she made you feel. Do you even know if she is single now or is she is still with her exboyfriend? What I think you should do is keep looking. You are still young with lots of time.
2006-12-01 05:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by The_Morbid_One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is with the old boyfriend still...then don't bother.
Then again she left you right? Screw her! YOU are better than that.......don't go running back to her because she will then think she has the permission to leave you when she feels like it.
There are plenty of girls out there....I suggest you find a new one and forget about the old one.
Good luck!
2006-12-01 05:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has she had any contact with you in the last year? If she hasn't, then i would think it would be clear that she has moved on, either with her ex, or someone new. My best advice is to move on as well. Figure out what things made you so in love with her, and look for some one who is more amazing, more wonderful, more whatever and start something new.
good luck buddy!!
2006-12-01 06:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and call her to find out how she's doing, but don't try to start anything unless she wants to see you again. She may even be waiting for you to call. But if she is still with the other guy, you will have to find away to let her go. Good Luck.
2006-12-01 05:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mikira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea my dear. It's been a year and you've made a valiant effort to move on, keep going. Often revisiting the past just makes it glaringly obvious that we made a mistake. If she left you for an ex, she would undoubtably do it again. Don't give her the chance to break your heart twice. Take care.
2006-12-01 05:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋