It's an older book but deals w/ Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and seems to have been written about the time when the disorder was really starting to gain acceptance in the medical community but before causes and treatments were well founded. I picked this up on, a hunch we'll say, as a means to better understand someone I know (not me, I assure you). It's scary how real this book is so far. Anyone have any experience with dealing w/ BPD? Before anyone answers, know that I want to stick this situation out. I have NO plans to cut and run. Also, thisd person hasn't told me anything specific but did tell me they went to counseling but never stuck w/ it. How detrimental could it be if I were to tell them, very unemotionally and unaccusingly that I thought I knew what was going on? They have hinted that there is a problem that they are aware of already and part of me senses that "letting the cat out of the bag" could really help (but I am VERY torn on that one).
2006-12-01 05:53:07 · 4 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Why not just ask more questions about what this person is hinting at? It may have been their way of feeling out the situation, to see how you would react. BPD is a big deal and the lives of those afflicted are often very chaotic, very intense, and very unhappy. Being in a relationship with a person with it is very difficult and takes a tremendous amount of understanding, compassion, and boundary setting. It is not an easy road, but it's rarely boring (on the upside!)
I have bpd and co-run an email support group for it. I've done absurd amounts of research and reading.
Here's some websites you might find helpful.
http://www.borderlinepersonalitytoday.com/main/
http://www.bpdresources.com/
http://www.bpdcentral.com/
http://www.tara4bpd.org/
2006-12-01 07:56:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well people "slay the messenger boy" when they hear what they know is true but don't want to belive. But if you care enough for this person you will be brave enough to stick it out, and that may require you go with them to therapy sessions, and wait in the lobby for encouragement and support.
2006-12-01 06:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person you are in a relationship with, maybe suggest counseling . But say that it is for you and include them in it. Allow them to get comfortable so that maybe they can begin to discuss there own emotional state.
2006-12-01 05:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Momma of 4mth old Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try "Stop Walking on Eggshells"--good read...you will learn you CAN'T stick it out, you have to protect yourself...I thought I could stick it out too...no one does...all you can do is get yourself healthy, there is nothing you can do for a BPD--they have to do it themselves. Some actually do improve with meds and therapy, but...not one person in my support group has had any success with their BP...
2006-12-01 06:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋