I have a 2 and 3 year old that justs loves their daddy very much and that is a good thing, but I'm a stay at home mom, and I give them all my attention from morning until night. My husband works until 6 or so in the evening, but as soon as he comes home, the kids want nothing to do with me. They push me away when I try and give them hugs and kisses at night. They cry for daddy's hugs instead. This probably sounds childish, but it does hurt to know that I do so much for them all day, and the moment my husband walks in, I'm by myself. They won't even let me put their dinner plates on the table(they cry for daddy to do it). I don't know what to do....any advice is helpful!
2006-12-01 05:37:31 · 11 answers · asked by iluvyewmore24 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Welcome to motherhood. LOL! Sounds typical to me. Since you are there all day you are the disciplinarian. Dad, whom they hardly see, probably play with them as soon as he come home and so they see him a a reward of sorts.
Don't feel bad, most kids do this at their ages. I know mine did. They do love you. Its a two year old thing, they will grow out of it.
2006-12-01 05:48:17 · answer #1 · answered by egg_sammash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the problem is that you are a stay at home mom and you are with them all day. You may be giving them too much attention, dont act like there not ther, but it sounds like you may need to give them some space. They are young so of course not too much space. Also its not a bad thing that they want all there daddies attention because you need your alone time to your self to think of it as a time to read or go for a walk, whatever you like to do. Also kids are always changing there minds a week from now your husband may be the one felt left out. The other thing is some stay at home moms are so busy cleaning or doing things around the house that they dont take the time out to play with thier kids and your husband may take the time so they may be paying no attention to you as you may do to them. Most likely its too much attention or not enough so look at your daily routin and think "Am I around them every second, How long did I actually sit down and just play...not talk on the phone or clean the house, or whatever" Hope this helps. Also remember that preparing lunch or watcing tv with them is not really play time, you have to get down on the floor and really play....good luck
2006-12-01 13:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by ga_lynn84 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if you think this is a competition. Make sure that you and your spouse are not setting it up as one.
On the weekends, take the opportunity for group hugs initiated by Daddy and family events that include everyone. You and your husband should together establish a bedimte ritual that includes you both - with him announcing that it's mommy's turn to hug goodnight.
Trade off kids on the weekends and do one-on-one time reading books, playing, and so on.
You do not want to start a "mom vs. dad" thing even at this age. It's OK for them to be Dad crazed, but just make sure he doesn't exclude you.
2006-12-01 15:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a mommy's day out. Maybe on a day that your husband is off of work, or if you can get a babysitter, and go out for the day, shopping, to the beach, whatever. It will be refreshing for you to have some 'me-time', and your kids are so used to seeing you all the time, they will definitely notice that you are not there & will miss you. In fact, after being with daddy or a babysitter all day, they'll be pushing that person away to get to you for those hugs & kisses.
2006-12-01 13:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by eliziam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just that you're ALWAYS there...and they know that when they NEED you...you're there!! BUT daddy is another story~
My sons do the same thing to me and my husband!! They rush to see him at the door...but when they don't feel good...they want mommy and MOMMY ONLY!!! Just be glad that they can have that time with him...some dad's aren't around to enjoy their kids!! My husband loves when the boys greet him at the door...and truthfully (being a stay at home mom TOO) THat gives me the time to do what I want to do...like dishes (not that I WANT TO do them) straightening up the kitchen...or even taking a bubble bath WITH NO interruptions!!! Enjoy this and watch how they look at him...it's a wonderful feeling for your husband who probably has missed most to the cute things that go on during the day...they grow up TOO quickly!! ENjoy them!!!
2006-12-01 13:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are used to you because they have you with them all day. You play with them and also may punish them. You tell them all the time what is right and what is wrong. You always comment to what they are doing (do this and do not do this).You make them do things they may be do not want to do like eating for example. But daddy. oh no daddy is only there for playing, hugging, kissing, they only see him for 2 or 3 precious hours. He is their savier. Besides it is another person they see instead of seeing you all day.
Do not take it so hard on yourself. Be happy. This does not meen they love you less. They do love you too. Do not push yourself between them and their father. You should incourage this fine relationship between them and their father and do not stand against it. Your husband should try to let you join them in playing so you can sit together like a family.
My husband takes our daughters everyday to bed and read to them, i do not mind. I consider this time as a break for myself and try to relax after a very tired day.
2006-12-01 13:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by green eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personal...toddlers are like that. I was my youngest grandson's most favorite person in the world until I walked in one day to babysit. He pointed out at my car and said "Grandpa, you can go home now." And he meant it! He hardly had anything to do with me and then recently after two months of this, it all changed to where I'm back in his good graces.
They just don't see their dad much during the day and when he comes home, they all want attention from him. It's also their way to showing some independence from you. Let him take care of them all day when he's home while you go out. They'll be all over you that evening.
2006-12-01 14:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by ironbrew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually a blessing! Use this time to do things for yourself (read a magazine, put a mask on your face, etc) let Daddy give them a bath and put them to bed. They will soon outgrow it and all of that free time for you will be gone!
2006-12-01 14:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by LBuffo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just because they see you all day and when he is there it is yeah daddy's here we haven't seen him in a while.
I know it hurts, but they don't understand yet that just because you have had them all day, you still want some attention at night.
2006-12-01 13:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invisible Woman is right on, even my CATS do this!
2006-12-01 13:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by musemessmer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋