I met this guy two months ago and we can talk for hours on the phone. We have much in common and I see a strong relationship in the future. I am starting to care deeply for him. I sense he has some insecurtiy issues. He always tells me to call him and never takes charge in any situation. We have much in common but the only times he seems open with me is when we drink alcohol and that is all we have ever done together is me basically coming over a getting waisted is our routine and I want to do other things but I am not sure he is ready or if he wants to. He said he loved me one night and then quickly corrected himself that he cares for me very much but he said this when drunk. I did not say anything and since then he has been acting standoffish. What is his deal? and how do I show him I care and want to take it to a more meaningful level?
2006-12-01 05:27:45 · 9 answers · asked by kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about it...if you can't communicate with him it'll never go far anyway...things aren't going to change unless you address the situation with him, and the two of you work together to change things.
2006-12-01 05:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him about YOUR feelings, then see where it goes. Alcohol has always made people open up more because it sets free your inhabitions. When he said he loved you, he probably meant it. I always say that communication is the key to everything in life. The only way you're ever gonna find out if he's ready, if he wants to go farther, if he's an alcoholic (just kidding), is if you talk about it. Ask him to go out with you, like to a non-alcoholic setting like the movies, the park, ballroom dancing, some places like that, and see what he says. If he only wants to sit in and drink, then there may be no advancement opportunities in your relationship.
2006-12-01 13:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by keipitright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you just wrote, "...getting waisted is our routine." I'm sorry to say there's not much of a future with this guy. If he's not willing to do anything else with you but get waisted, then I think he's just using you as a drinking buddy. He said he loves you but won't make any effort to take you out on a real date and treat you like a lady. I don't mean to sound sarcastic but your description of this guy makes him sound like a lazy loser who is playing head games with you. Good luck and I hope my honesty hasn't offended you.
2006-12-01 13:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it makes sense to make sure can get along and enjoy each other when you are drink or when you are sober, happy or sad, etc.
If people say things when they are drunk, maybe make sure they meant em.
If ya care for somebody and want to get to another level with somebody. Maybe discuss what level you are on first and what level you are going to try for.
2006-12-01 13:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is probably shy and builds courage with the booze and knowing you are drunk too.....ask him on a lunch date or day date to a museum or park or something... depending on his answer you should know if he wants to build a relationship
2006-12-01 13:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him when hes not drunk or drinking
dont beat around the bush
guys hate that
just tell him
be direct
2006-12-01 13:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave this broken man alone, he gets drunk and becomes affectionate, lol, he could be boning fat chicks, thank god you save his life
2006-12-01 13:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-01 13:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by mister roy jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude--this is just a drunken friend---accept it for that and u will be fine
2006-12-01 13:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋