I used to date someone that was involved with smoking pot occasionaly. I never like pot but I looked at it as like drinking occasionly. He had just gotten out of a relationship so I thought he would do it to relieve stress. So I let him and I wanted him to like like me so I did it occasionly with him. (since his ex did it all the time with him)
Then....after 3 months it seemed that was all he LOVED to do. Every day look foward to it. Before work, after work (sports, gymnastics, instructor), before going to eat at a restaurant, always had a little bit in a jar in his car so that he could do it while driving -OH and smoking up before going into a movie theater. I felt like everytime I talked to him about cutting down he never wanted to compromise. I told him I can not do it and broke it off. He made me feel guilty like I was suppose to help him cut down. Was he doing it too much? Should I have helped him? He would not listen and wanted to do it more!
2006-12-01 05:26:55 · 26 answers · asked by justaquestion 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After you begin to smoke regularly (at least once a day) you begin building up a tolerance and experience a high which is not so intense as the original. Marijuana isn't a chemically-addictive substance, but you can still get addicted to it psychologically. If he has the money and access to smoke constantly like you said he was, it would be extremely hard to make him stop. The worst thing about being addicted to marijuana is that you can never bring yourself to admit it and it does start taking priority over other parts of your life. Usually if you are accused of doing it too much you will become very defensive and start reasoning why you smoke as much as you do, and not view it as a big deal. I'd say pretty much the only way someone as addicted as him will stop is if they are arrested, their supplier runs dry, they go broke, or they just really really want to stop. So I guess my summary from all that is, you probably wouldn't have had much luck making him stop smoking. It is something he has to take upon himself and has to really want to do. That doesn't mean you can't support and encourage him, but if he's trying to say you were supposed to help him quit, he probably isn't going to try to help himself any time soon.
Honestly, the only girlfriend/boyfriend that will work for a pothead is another pothead.
2006-12-01 05:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by myyahooanswersaccount1184 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my ex. GET OUT OF IT NOW. I just spent 7 months on an up and down roller coaster relationship with a pothead doctor.He would even tell me he was going to stop because sometimes he would get mean and guess what he would stop for a week and then go right back too it. Even better than that he started getting into other drugs Ecstasy,shrooms and dumping me and going to clubs to pick up chicks when he was high. Then he would call the next day and tell me how much he loved me and how everyhting was going to change. They never change until they decide too and people that do drugs are hiding something deeper. you will be on a roller coaster ride and besides do you really want to be with someone that is always high. how will you ever know if it's real if he is always high. Please take my advice on this and get out of the relationship.
2006-12-01 05:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see both sides and he should've respected your feelings about not wanting to do it and at least be discreet about it. Don't know what your ages are, but I've smoked pot for almost 30 years and am the biggest marijuana advocate there is. It's not the crazed drug everyone thinks it is. It is a great stress releiver but also helps me see things in better prospective, calms me down enough to review all sides of issues. If he truly wanted help to quit, then yes, you should've helped him. If he was just trying to win you over with it, you did the right thing. I do at least respect those who don't and I would never do it around them. Don't know how he is, but personnally I will probably still be smoking when I'm 90 and my rocking chair is facing east!
2006-12-01 05:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you had no choice but to end the relationship.
Your boyfriend is definitely addicted and in denial, it is not your or anyone else's job to help him quit. He has to admit its too much, and too often, make attempts to correct it himself or go to a rehab or outpatient counseling. You would not believe the number of people I have heard say "it's just pot", those are always the people that have disruption and turmoil in their life, and sometimes move on to other stronger drugs.
Not to mention the fact that it is illegal and if he keeps it in his car he doesn't seem to worried about being caught. But I bet you would be???? You cannot make a drug user quit until they want to, don't even waste your time, it WONT happen.
2006-12-01 05:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really do anything wrong. You could have been a little more supportive but you are in the clear. You did what was best for you. The only reason why you would feel guilty though is because you felt that you could have really helped him.
But do not hurt your head.
What is to be will be.
2006-12-01 05:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, and move on with your life. He obviously has different ideas than you do as to what is ok and what is not. It is not your job to help him cut down or quit. And the longer you hang around someone who does things that you do not find ok, the more normal the behavior becomes and you eventually will be doing the same. good luck and God bless****
2006-12-01 05:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried to get him to cut down and he refused, and you needed to be away from that, of course you did the right thing. You could end up being arrested for the pot in the car one day.
2006-12-01 05:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Leo F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well how important is it to you that he stops or cuts down? Seems like he is unwilling to compromise and you may need to just cut your losses if you feel THAT strongly about it. He could also just say that he has stopped and just do it behind your back. I hear that happens sometimes. ;)
2006-12-01 05:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by c1001838 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you did the right thing. do you know that if he's pulled over with that stuff in his car with you in it you'd be arrested right along with him? if anything he should feel guilty for lettng you go because of his selfishness. go on with your life and don't look back, his habit is his problem and it's not up to you to solve it for him. you tried and that's it. never do anything like that just to be with a person. you see where it got you right? much luck.
2006-12-01 05:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was right for you to end it. That's terrible. There's not much you can do to help him quit. You already spent time with him and that seemed to be the only thing on his mind. He is only trying to make you feel bad because he realizes no girl will want him if he is the way he is.
2006-12-01 05:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by tia 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋