My mother has been harrassing me about eating to much. She always gets on my case and yells at me that I am fat. That is one reason I moved away to go to college. However the few times I have gone home for few times she starts yelling at me saying that I am fat. This is really serious because I have let it tear down my self-esteem and sefl-confidence. She is my mother and not supposed to say these things to me. Isn't she suppose to love me as me? I am NOT fishing for SYMPATHY. I just want to know what to do, because she makes my life a living hell. I am 5 ft 4' and about 113 lbs. What the hell is wrong with her? I am stressed, upset and mad. I have confronted her but all we wind up doing is yelling at each other. I need serious answers only, and please tell me what I can do!! I have about had it!!!!!
2006-12-01 05:26:04 · 12 answers · asked by amber 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At 5'4" and 113 pounds you aren't even overweight at all. So I really don't see what your Mom is talking about, what I would do is just walk out of the room or out of the house when she starts on you again, after a while she will get the message. Your Mom really shouldn't be talking to you that way.
2006-12-01 05:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. As a mother she is supposed to have unconditional love. She probably was a little on the chubby side when she was younger and she doesn't want you to go the same route as she did, but yelling solves nothing. Sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel and if that doesn't work then you could re-build your self-esteem by telling yourself how beautiful you are and if you think that you are overweight then work out a little each day and don't eat as much.
2006-12-01 13:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother says those thing to you because she jeluse sorry about the spelling I'm not good at it . If you are 5fl 4" and about 113 you are really under weight . Your mother is getting old and she doesn't like it! By making to feel bad the it make her feel good. You sound like a very good looking woman to me. When she does that to you just always think in your head just think in your she just wish she could look like me again.
2006-12-01 13:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom may have issues of her own, with her weight or something else bugging her. If you are not overweight and are at a healthy weight then you are fine as you are!
Mom will not live forever, try your best to listen to her but you do not have to do as she says because you are older now and must figure out what is best for you.
2006-12-01 13:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by Rosey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know what your saying girl! Just try changign the subject when she brings it up about you being fat! You can also tell her that it isn't really nice! And if she continues being the way she is then just don't come to her house for couple months and that will teach her.
2006-12-01 13:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Haley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me your mom has personal issues to deal with. Perhaps her issues are beyond your help.
So, you have a choice. You can either put up with it the best you can. Or, stop taking her financial support for school and stuff and make it on your own. That's your choice, pick one.
If she is not helping you financially, then you still have the same choice to make.
2006-12-01 14:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your skinnier then Tyra Banks!(On her show she said shes 120) See, your mom thinks your fat, but i think you are at a good wieght.If she harasses you, and your in college, she should know your old enough to know a personal issue yourself
2006-12-01 18:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all...hunny look at yourself in the mirror. I bet that you are perfect 5'4 and 113lbs is in NO WAY FAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Make sure you tell yourself that everyday..."You are beautiful!"
As for your mom....she needs help. Stop seeing / talking to her for a while and see if she comes around. Maybe a "seperation" from your mom would be very healthy in this situation.
YOU ARE NOT FAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-01 13:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG thats horrible!!!! Don't let in tear you down. U are sooo not fat for your height. Your mom should live you FOR YOU WHO ARE and your NOT fat.
2006-12-01 14:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by loveyrhair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5'4" and 113lbs...Sounds hot to me. Don't let your mother's issues drag you down. Tell her that if she says anything bad, you will leave. And then stick to that. Sooner or later, she'll miss you.
2006-12-01 13:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋