What parameters must one consider while selecting a life partner apart from religion and family background and income ? How does one know if u r compatible with him apart from astrology?
2006-12-01 05:23:14 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My parents are looking for someone for me. It is going to be an arranged marriage. However, I get to see their bio data and choose from that. Only after the decision is made i'll get to meet him. So i'm a bit confused on how to select based on that
2006-12-01 05:28:56 · update #1
My parents are looking for someone for me. It is going to be an arranged marriage. However, I get to see their bio data and choose from that. Only after the decision is made i'll get to meet him. So i'm a bit confused on how to select based on that
2006-12-01 05:29:21 · update #2
My parents are looking for someone for me. It is going to be an arranged marriage. However, I get to see their bio data and choose from that. Only after the decision is made i'll get to meet him. So i'm a bit confused on how to select based on that
2006-12-01 05:29:25 · update #3
How will I know if he is going to be kind or good from his biodata?
2006-12-01 05:54:32 · update #4
there must be attractions, honesty, love and respect to one another and the rest will follow.
2006-12-01 05:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I can only speak from a personal perspective. But for me I would have to say it was love, friendship, laughter and a good sexual relationship that grew and has grown over many years. If you want to be with someone religion, family background and income really are not issues that should help you choose your future partner. I met my partner when I was seventeen and am now thirty-five, have three great daughters, and things are still great. But we grew together, ups, downs whatever we have been through, I feel it has made us stronger as a couple. Good luck in making the right decision, only you in the end, can decide what you want in your relationship. But you shouldn't let minor things stop you from giving something a go, you will not know until you try something. Better than having regret. You can try living with someone first (culture permitting), my partner and I did for the first few years of our relationship, but that is what worked for me. Good luck, Natasha.
2006-12-01 06:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you give us more information on this...as in what stuff is included in his bio data? No one really seems to understand that you are trying to pick from a piece of paper, not an actual person. Just by knowing his religion, family background, and income says nothing about who he is as a person.
**If it shows how often he attends religious events or activities...that might tell you how important religion and morals are to him.
**Knowing his family background can show you he comes from maybe a large or small family...therefore it might tell you how big of a family he may want to have with his future wife.
**His income might show you 2 things....that he either has an education or worked very hard to make the good money he has...OR....that he has no education and no abitions so therefore you will be "just making" it to get by after married.
You have to think outside the box to gather the right information. Otherwise without meeting them first....you really don't know. You take the black and white information you have, try to think into it more of what it says and hope you make the right choice. If your mom or anyone else has been in your situation, ask them for their point of view. Ask them how they chose with out meeting.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-01 06:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What religion someone is, or their background, or income has nothing to do with love which is the most important thing, if you have that you don't need anything else.
I feel sorry for you that you have to have an arranged marriage, I can't think of a worse thing.
How can you stand at the altar, in front of God and say your vows that you will love, honour and respect this man, when all you will be thinking about is he's income and family?
2006-12-01 05:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by pampurredpuss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bit difficult. It seems that regardless of what you think, they will make you marry one of the guys on their 'list'. I guess you could approach this like that show 'blind date' and ask the same 3 questions of all the guys and based on the answer whittle the list down to the final 3 then ask 3 fresh questions and again based on the best answer chose the guy who gave the answers you were hoping for. Apart from that I don't know what else to suggest. Good luck and I hope you marry well!
2006-12-01 05:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All these people are not paying attention to what you are saying.... You have to figure out what is important to you based on the citeria your parents have put out to you. Pick those things and hope that you made the right choice. Be open minded. I can imagine how scary an arranged marriage can be. Just try to keep in mind what you can live with and what you would never tolerate. Good luck I hope this helps.
2006-12-01 05:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would choose someone of the same intellectual ability as myself - having made a mistake with my first marriage. I would choose someone who makes me laugh, is kind, considerate and has good morals. A moral and conscientious man makes (mostly) good decisions. I am extremely happily married to the man I have just described, and would offer my mother's advice also - "If you try to give more than you receive, at least you know you are trying your best". Good luck with your marriage.
2006-12-01 06:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not depend upon astrology. If you are only seeing him on paper, it is very difficult to know what he is really like. Can't you meet him and then decide? You would want someone who looks nice, who will treat you with respect, who has a good sense of humor, who can laugh at himself, and who has an education and a good job. Can you tell all of that on paper? Good luck. I hope it works out for you.
2006-12-01 06:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anniesgran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess your parents will see the guy before you and parents alway wants what is best for their children. Talking is a good way of getting to know another person, that is why the telephone was invented. i think you should get the guy number and have a few conversations before you decide.
2006-12-01 05:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Officelady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your parents pressure you into it....a man must be kind and a good father for his children...and easy going and has a strong work ethic...if you cannot meet him atleast get some photos, once you are married sex and attraction will matter alot!
speak to him on the phone alot too!
Good luck...or compromise with our parents to find a suitable match!
2006-12-01 06:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is bio data? I think personally if you have similer interests can communicate effectivly and get on, it may lead to love at first sight, aranged marriages are very mad in the way that they contain too much risk taking and may not even work out, mke your choices effectivly, good luck, ps it may be love at first sight
2006-12-01 08:37:21 · answer #11 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋