Tough part 2?

Question

She WAS in counseling. Now she is not. And whatever is going on with her now, she seems content to let it consume her rather than do anything about it. I have done some reading and research b/c I am really scared for her. Under THESE circumstances, I want to just tell her, "Look, I know you're frightened but I don't know why. But it scares me to, not b/c I'm worried, but b/c I care. I have done some reading on my own, and know you went to counseling before. What would you say if I said I thought I knew why? (And then tell her) I have suspected this for a while and still haven't left you and don't plan to now. I just wanted this out in the open so you know that I know and still love you, don't blame you, and want to be here for you."

As I said before, I am very nearly to the point that I would rather have her hate me and do something to help herself rather than try to figure out what's best for me in the context of her situation. So what would you do? Would you tell her?

Answer 1

Let me simplify this. If her issues are adversely affecting you, then you need to tell her. If her answer gives hope that things CAN and WILL improve, then decide if she's worth it.

If not, then walk. You say you don't blame her, well don't blame yourself either. Maybe her emotional states are not her fault deep down. But they aren't your fault either.

Martyrdom is loser logic. It's her job to get her own help. Your job is to decide what you're willing to live with and walk if it's not.

Answer 2

I could anwer if I had a clue as to the problem..
Some problems you can't fix... You do know that fixing is our nature don't you? if not well, it is... but you don't have to and in fact can't fix everyone.
It just all depends on what needs fixing and I don't have a clue.

Answer 3

just tell her in away your not acussing her or forcing her into something honesty is always best