Am I Crazy??

Question

I'm dating a guy who keeps saying he wants to get to know me better and that I'm the ideal situation for him but he thinks I'm a little off because I don't like it when he's late or takes 2 hours to pick me up when I know he only lives 30 min. away.

I call him consistently when I'm waiting on him which only makes him take longer and he knows that I have an anxiety disorder. I am now seeking therapy and he said he is willing to go with me, need be. I'm 30yrs. old, no kids, a good job, my own place and I take care of myself. I have a pleasant personality and get along great with other people, I'm also a very giving and understanding person. Am I a little off because I can't tolerate being left waiting and want a serious relationship and take the steps to show that? Am I a little off because of my anxiety? Nobodies perfect, at least I acknowledge my weakness and am trying to work on it.

Answer 1

you need a new man

Answer 2

by acknowledging your faults you have takin the first step...anxiety disorder is not something that goes away wothout help....short term therapy is the key any where between 12-30 visits should improve you anxiety....but as for the excessive calling when hes not there yet you need to tell your self no! a man wants a women who is hard to get ,,,if you are throwing yourself at him he will turn away! and become even more late...if he says im comming right now than wait if he should be there in 30 min give him the benefit of the doubt for 50 min. than after that wacth the time....after a little over an hour id call him once just to see where he is , let him answer.....be patient and say ok see you soon...no man likes a nag and i know its rough b/c of you anxiety disorder but you need to control it as best you can or soon he may not be oicking you up at all...no one wants a real clinmgy woman! ...good luck!

Answer 3

no one is perfect, but you need to relax cause nothing is worth getting worried over, I used to have anxiety but then i realized that "whats the worst that could happen" I mean how bad can it get say if a certain girl stands me up, sure i dont get to enjoy myself, but there is always more women, and the same about men for you, if this guy isn't striking the right tone for you, you might wanna investigate other options, but the fact that he wants to go to therapy with you is a plus, and also my one friend... a dude, pisses me off the most cause he will tell me 20mins, 3 hours later he's like sorry ran into some stuff, basically someone who tells you a time so you dont have to keep calling them, and I can only imagine how bad that would be with an anxiety disorder... please just relax and understand these things happen, and you just need to acept who people are and some people aren't gonna leave you hangin like this guy... long message, babbled a lot

Answer 4

You do sound a bit off. Also you said that you get along great with others. I don't know if that is true being the problems you are having with him.
For a relationship that is just starting maybe you are a bit too controlling. Your reaction to him being late is a bit much.

Good that you know there is a problem. That is the first step to deliverance.

Answer 5

I dont think you are crazy honey!! Have you told him what you expect of him?? At least it sounds like he is willing to try to help the situation if he is willing to go to counseling.Do you think maybe it might be that you are to anxious for his arrivale??

Just talk to him and tell him how you feel without laying blame
I do think that people should be on time myself. If not,it seems they are being disrespectful,unless something has gone wrong,they should at least call to let you know they are going to be late.

Answer 6

You should dump this dude! I'm serious! You are actually self doubting yourself over an inconsiderate, selfish jerk. I apogize for calling him a jerk, but you will find this word in your vocabulary constantly if you continue with...... must I repeat myself? Lifes to short to waste with someone like that and he won't change, either. But for you to doubt yourself over something that someone else is clearly incapable of (consideration for your feelings), is a BIG RED FLAG!!!!!! Run as fast as you can and don't look back. There's a perfect someone for you, but it's not him. I can see this, and I don't even know you. Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 7

He thinks you're a little off when HE'S the late one?????
Don't let him take advantage of you, you deserve respect and to be kept waiting around twiddling your thumbs when he's supposed to pick you up is just plain inconsiderate.
Make him wait and see how he likes it.
He'll probably try to make you feel like crap for making him wait and come up with excuses for why his is. As in, its ok for him but not for you.
I don't know this guy but from what you're saying, I wouldn't want to! Sorry :(

Answer 8

Good if you r working on it. but try NOT to drive him away. Guys aren't into nagging.. this is Your Issue here.. Think of His end.. he will show up, if he does.

Until then sit n watch TV.. and just expect him.. don't grab a coat til he is actually there!!
Never let them think we are so in Need of them, but we can handle a lot ourselves. Relax a bit k :)

Answer 9

Geminig your not crazy for wanting to be treated with respect from the man who states he loves you. And yes it's disrespectful to be late all the time. Especially if he knows you have an anxiety disorder.

Answer 10

No I think that you are fine he should not leave you sitting there for that long when it doesnt take that long to get to your house, and expect you not to say anything,unless he had told you he woul dtake a little longer.

Answer 11

Nah, your fine. I hate waiting for people too. If you say 7PM, he should be there by 7PM. If he is going to be late..... CALL! I know exactly what you are talking about,. Teach him a lesson. next time he is late, go out without him.