...& saw that he had been visiting all of these girlie sites, (nudy girlie sites). This really hurts my feelings. I looked at these girls. They are all blonde and like 110 pounds. I am brunette and certainly overweight. I confronted him and he says he feels bad. Can you help?”
2006-12-01 05:02:38 · 20 answers · asked by nita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, almost every male looks at some kind of porn, at least once in his life. It's nothing against you, and it doesn't mean that he loves you less, or that he doesn't find you attractive. It really doesn't have anything to do with women at all, just a man's fantasies. Don't take it personally what the girls look like either. Almost all of the porn models are blonde toothpicks, and usually fake ones at that: bleached hair, fake tan, and implants bigger than nature intended.
Instead of worrying about what he's doing on line, spend your time trying to feel better about yourself. It doesn't matter what you look like, self esteem and confidence go a long way to making a woman sexy and desirable. If you feel unattractive, then you're not going to believe that you aren't. If you feel attractive, then it won't be so hurtful when he messes up and looks at nude women on the web.
2006-12-01 05:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how your feelings are hurt. I get the same way. He is a guy though and they are visual creatures. Just be happy hes looking at websites instead of going out and doing chicks. Its just a thing guys do. Us girls cant stop it no matter what. Those girls are just a fantasy and can never live up to you. Theres a reason hes with you and for whatever reason it is, its better than some chick that flashes everything to the world.
2006-12-01 05:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Maria S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And then you accidently opened his browsing history, then his cookies "just popped up", and THEN his bookmarks just opened magically and started scrolling by.
Just admit you were snooping for starters. If you are insecure about the silicone bimbos, then you're crazy. These chicks work 10 hours a month and spend the rest of the time trying to look good. Real women just don't have the time.
If you feel badly about your body, then work to fix it. Just don't compare yourself to these women. It's totally unrealistic.
Keeping track of what your man is thinking and looking at is not going to make you feel secure. That comes from within. Either you are or aren't.
2006-12-01 05:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it you would like help with? You found it confronted him and he is sorry. Most men look or have looked at porn on a computer. Has nothing to do with you and more than likely he is NOT comparing and contrasting them to you. That's just a fantasy. You are real.
2006-12-01 05:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by c1001838 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...lighten up!
Porn has nothing to do with you. really!
Women for some reason always think it has something to do with a lacking in the relationship, yada yada ya.
The honest truth is, it does not mean anything!
Get over it, and get over yourself.
Sorry to be so flippant but you would be surprised how common this question is. You women take it all personal, when quite frankly it has nothing to do with you, your relationship, or his chances of cheating.
2006-12-01 05:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the other answers. Every guy does it. You shouldn't take it personally, I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings. I think you need to talk to him about this if it really bothers you still. Its not good to leave things until they are overwhelming.
2006-12-01 05:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by kakie829 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it hurts your feelings but if he is not contacting any of these girls what does it hurt to look/it's like window shopping with no intention of buying
2006-12-01 05:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by psychoepp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help with what? Your boyfriend enjoys looking at skinny naked blonds and that hurts your feelings. What is it you need help with? How to force him to stop? You can't. How to get over your hurt? Maybe you can't. That you no longer trust him? He blew it.
2006-12-01 05:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL- all men do it.
Just let it go, if he is sorry, he won't do it again.
Mine gave my laptop a virus going to nudy sites!!
2006-12-01 05:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf did the same thing, except he was looking at all giant boobed girls and i'm a tiny AA cup and he KNOWS how insecure i am about it. and it didnt happen on just one occasion either.
but guys are guys and guys are going to look. the only thing i can tell you is to find the hottest guys on the net and make them your desktop picture and see how it makes him feel
2006-12-01 05:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by mickey g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋