It seems like men don't want anything to do with a women who is over weight. Doesn't matter if her personality is great and she would do anything for them, they just can't get over the outside appearance. If there were a nickle for everytime a man said "She has a pretty face but she is too fat", I would be rich!
2006-12-01 04:41:58 · 47 answers · asked by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm fat and I have a bf. Most guys are too shallow. They like the girl, but they're afraid of their image. Guys like that aren't real men. Real men accept a woman for her personality AND her looks.
2006-12-01 04:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by Amigurl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, beauty is more than skin deep, but it still includes the skin! Physical attraction is often what gets the guy interested enough in the woman to discover her personality. It's not fair, really, but that is how it works out a lot of times. Every once in a while you will find a guy that just enjoys hanging out, conversation, socializing more so than usual. That's the sort that gets to know people just as a matter of course and can really appreciate people for who they are. Speaking personally, I have always liked outdoor pursuits, sports, lifting weights, etc. It was always something of a challenge to find women that enjoyed these activities, and often times a woman's physical condition was a good indicator for me as to whether or not she had physically active hobbies. So, whether someone is making a judgment about your personality or just your appearance it can certainly be a challenge to meet people if you carry a little extra weight. However, do not let that stop you. Join clubs or organizations that interest you, socialize, be more proactive. Any polite man will be more than willing to converse with you and might just get a glimpse of something he likes.
2006-12-01 04:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by DJL2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First that is not true of all men, and the same is often true of women - that women do not want anything to do with overweight men, or poor men, or short men, or bald men.
We like what we like, and it usually is not a problem unless your expectations are so high you end up knowing and liking no one, or no one likes you.
If you are talking about yourself, you have to decide what to do. If you are really overweight, I would suggest for your health and self-esteem and attractiveness that you decide how much you care. If you care, then begin a walking program every day twice a day for 30-40 minutes. Cut down on sweets, and fats and eat healthy, and get enough sleep. Drink a lot of water as well.
How you feel and behave about your own self is important too, and when you start to feel better you will smile more and attract more interest.
2006-12-01 04:47:39 · answer #3 · answered by themountainviewguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men who go for the skinny model type girls who are stereotypically gorgeous are indeed not ready for a serious relationship. So why even want to be with a guy like that?
There's this cool book out, it's called Sperm Are from Men, Eggs Are from Women: The Real Reason Men And Women Are Different
It talks about what I mentioned in the first paragraph, also an interesting funny read.
2006-12-01 04:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia 604 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately in the society that we live in today too many people are hung up on appearance. But you know what, there are many people out there that are not. If a man has said that to you than consider yourself lucky. That is one less looser you have to deal with. Anyone that shallow isn't worth the time of day anyway. The right man will come into your life soon enough. Just give it some time. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-01 04:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy is different and to be honest that will be the first thing looked at by both men and women alike. Depending on how deep a persons vanity is and what they want in GF than things like that do matter but for others it may not. Maybe hang out with a different group of guys or a thinner group of girls.
2006-12-01 04:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by 456tbj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are shallow. If a person cares for you weight wouldnt be an issue. You know the men that like a large woman. There are websites that have men that date big women. Goggle it girl. I am sure you will find someone that will see more than a pretty face.
2006-12-01 04:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can ask the same question. I was over 300 pounds and no woman even gave me the time of day. I now only weigh 210 pounds and the same women now go out of their way to talk to me. Other than the weight loss I am the same person. I wouldn't want any woman that judged me on how many times the needle goes around on the scales.
2006-12-01 04:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Richard B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personality is one category, and physical appearance is another category, so even if you score a 100 in personality, it's a new scale when you get into the looks category.
Maybe they don't want to be crushed, or some guys like tiny tummies. Another theory is that guys like girls that are smaller than them so they can feel more manly. Also, my own theory is that people are very aware these days that obesity means a shorter life, and no one wants to be reminded of death.
Some guys like fat girls. Borat does.
Ha ha, I like how City Girl decides what a real man is. Real men do not like women who are in shape, I guess. A lot of imposters out there.
2006-12-01 04:46:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's true not all men are like that. Some men LIKE overweight women.
Please, take no offense as I, myself, could stand to lose a few pounds. Now, I know that looks is not all that matters but, you know as well as the next girl that there has to be at least a little physical attraction there. And, you have to admit, generally speaking, being overweight is just not all that attractive.
And you have to admit that it works both ways, men are not the only gender who notice weight.
2006-12-01 04:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being fat says many things. That you have some kind of physical, mental or emotional problem that you have failed to deal with for one. Being fat is a problem and few men want to deal with problem women no matter how nice they are in other ways.
Men are also socially concious and hate to be laughed at by their friends for having a fat girlfriend.
Best to find a nice fat man, work on the weight or accept the situation.
Sorry.
2006-12-01 04:48:51 · answer #11 · answered by campojoe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋