We met 1yr ago, clicked & really enjoyed being with each other but she wasn't ready for a relationship - she'd just got out of a long one, but we still saw each other & got very close, but she was very hot & cold. Months later, she told me wanted to see other guys, but also see me, and weeks later she broke things off... weeks later her Ex proposes, but she declined.
Months later we met-up again & had a nice date, but she's hot&cold again, so I told her I could never see her again,but I told her I loved her, she replied she wasn't ready to give more right now.
Months on, she calls, we meet, was nice... she flirts, hugs & kisses, but I left & didn't call again but sent a cheeky SMS one evening. She calls days later & I ignore her & she goes mad at me. Days later she apologies & tells me she met a nice guy, but it wasn't a date. So I ignored her... 2 months later she calls me on Sunday morning a month ago but haven't called her back - don't want to get hurt again, I still love her.
2006-12-01 04:41:13 · 19 answers · asked by MJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We broke-up in February, but she said she wanted to be friends, which I told her I couldn't, and so told her I could never speak or see her again as I wanted more from her, but she told me she didn't want the pressure and wanted to see other guys.
Anyway, in August we met up and it was really nice to see each other (when she was all kissy, hugs, etc), but I didn't come across so keen towards her. When I left later that evening, she sent me a message saying "was really nice to see you! night night, sweet dreams..." like old times. We kept in touch a few times by SMS, and I told her it would be nice to see her over the weekend to "kiss her and hug her" before I went away for a month, which she said she was "unfortunately going away for the weekend and wouldn't be able to see each other before I went :( ...".
After that, I didn't reply... 2 months later, I get the call out the blue on the Sunday morning, one month ago. Didn't call her back since...
2006-12-01 05:04:48 · update #1
Never go backwards in life. She dumped you. Show her she don't matter and get someone else.
2006-12-01 04:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, because I'm in exactly the same situation as you, but she doesn't know her own mind, doesn't know how she's affecting you and will ultimately hurt you lots more. It's awful when you love someone so much but they can't see it huh? If I were you I'd drop all contact and make an effort to go out with other people, take up new interests so you have something else to concentrate on and new things to talk about with new friends. They might not seem as good as her at first but persevere, you'll meet someone who's very special and much nicer to you than she is, which you deserve. If you carry on in a destuctive relationship it'll just be you that gets hurt and it'll effect future, potentially very successful, relationships because you won't want to trust anyone. Get out of the vicious circle now, before your head gets really screwed up.
Eeek, now I have to take my own advice....!
2006-12-01 12:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Katie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've said yourself what the problem is - you want more and she doesn't want to give it. She's happily meeting lots of guys without getting in too deep. If thats what she wants then fine but you are in he wrong if you try and blackmail her into being with you by telling her you must have more.
If you really want her and are prepared to be patient then "softly softly catchy monkey" (stupid phrase I know). This means just be nice, don't pressure her and relax. You should try and look out for other ladies yourself and keep her as a friend. Once she realises others are interested in you the tables may turn.
Good luck!
2006-12-01 13:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because she knows what you are about and she doesn't want to let you go, I am sure there is something that she likes and knowing that an other woman can reap the benefits from you would be troubling to her...She wants to keep you as her play toy and by calling you as many times and as long as she wants thrills her she will do it...Now you could stop it if you want to that is only if you want....But personally I don't think you really want to let her go either I think that you still like her as well and really you like the attention you are getting you are a man and most men know women will keep coming back if they feel the man is still interested....which needless to say I think you are!
2006-12-01 12:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey MJ, u seem genuine enough. Ok mate. Answer is you must have made her feel special and she likes the fact you love her. She not sure what see wants or if you really want her, she may may be does not like you as much you like her or lets on she does not and she may wants to see how much your prepared to do or put up with. She may be even wants more than 1 man (if you can live with that she a winner, if you can't and are prepare to fight (her over him, or him) for her (not with her). your the a winner, but not the winner. It's crazy mate you will never figure it all out. Do what you feel is right confront her go crazy in a calm way but take her on honestly and up front don't be weak. Remove your self from inside in and look at it straight forwardly as if it were your mates problem. be staright with yourself, is she the one, if it too much grief leave it. If she too strong for you and that is not what you need tell her and leave it. But tell her it's always hard work is it worth it. Tell her anything and everything, communicate, tell her things you dislike about her as well as like and love if you love it does not mean she can do what she wants. But what she may want is you to work with out and through things with her. Be honest if your not emotionaly compatable and able to function as a team or unit and your not matched in some ways. forget it forget about money, status etc, do you both connect, tell her where you see her in your opion but do not tell her what to do! Treat her like a human being and as a person not a member of the other sex who you desire, but of course that's important... this is so familiar but mine is thousands of miles away, if you love somthing set it free it is is for you it will be so. It's mad but if she the one be careful love blinds accept faults as we all have them she have a list of yours talk about them can you function with her to achieve things. Although you not be that nice with her, do not fight for dominance it's give and take and trust. Have you told her you being hurt and are scared of additional hurt, be brave, be calm and be true, do not be affraid of looking stupid to her if she loves you she see your trying and will not thing bad of you she should respect you. if she a ***** and will use you stay away or be careful. Search your self and act on your instint. Could you commit with her, if you can't trust that may be a fault on etier side of yous. If she is the 1 there is nothing better mate. The very Best of luck... women are wonderful and ....... as well... The anwser is IN YOU and what YOUR prepare to do about it and accept!! Cheers
2006-12-01 13:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Gem of Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she likes is the attention you're giving her. She only wants friendship with some fringe benefits and nothing more. It may be time for you to find a girl who wants a relationship with you and not just friendship. She is out there waiting for you! All the best in your search.
2006-12-01 12:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Being Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's of no good to you. She only wants a toy boy. If u really dont wanna get hurt, ignore her and get on with you life.There are other girls out there who wanna get serious. Move on boy. If she really likes and wanna be with u, she'll get serious.
Gudluck
2006-12-01 12:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by teemah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why didnt u go on saying..
and later on
she got mad
didnt recieve my message
then I ignored her..we fighted..but kissed and hugged
later called again had a nice dinner
then I gave her a message she didn't reply............................
HOney slow down............
sit with her and just talk 2 her...find out what she really wants...
2006-12-01 12:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on you will find that special person who will love you aand only you why even talk to her after she hurt you tell her to move on so that you can move on to you don,t want to get hurt by her again but your foot donw and tell her like you mean it hope this helps
2006-12-01 12:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by dar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on man, plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-12-01 12:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by alan r. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋