A group at our church wants us ( me and my boyfriend) to attend there Christmas party to get to know each other better. In fear of forming opinions, we are not sure we want to. We have already got to know a few people and have found they are a bit diff. then we thought and we really don't want to judge or be judged. We like the people in our church as we know them now and are affraid if we get to know them deeper will will not like what we see.
2006-12-01 04:29:58 · 20 answers · asked by sammyw1024 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I like the church and unless i highly diagree with things going on in it, I don't want to leave it. I love the people they are like family, but like family everyone has issues, selfishness, judgemental, I would rather love them like family without knowing them like i know the details of the people in my family
2006-12-01 04:48:10 · update #1
First, nobody is perfect. We always risk not liking people that we get to know better AND vice-versa.
Second, what are your expectations of your church? Do you want to just go listen to sermons on Sunday and leave. Then okay, sure. But if you are wanting to grow and ask questions and dig deeper with a community of authentic, truth seekers, then you have a problem on your hands, don't you?
Now, this "judging" thing, you already seemed to have made your mind up that things are only going to get worse as you get to know these people more. You know what? Chances are that they may feel the same way about you because it's hard to hide our flaws when we are in real community with others. BUT this is the exciting part where we finally really appreciate God's grace for us and then we can invite God in to change our hearts, give us grace for one another and really start building character.
If people don't really know *you*, then they can't love the *real* you. If you don't really know people, you can't really love them.
Maybe this group isn't right for you but I do hope that you will find a church or faith community that is warm, welcoming, authentic and loving that will inspire you to the same.
Best regards : )
2006-12-01 04:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Gryphon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go just to make sure. That way, if your hunch is correct, you've proven it and you can move on to a new church. You wouldn't want to move on based on an assumption, would you? Anyway... just how much more deeply can you get to know someone while at a Christmas party??
2006-12-01 12:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would attend in order to find out. If knowing them well would cause you to not like them anymore, are they really someone you want to share worship and faith with. In my opinion, I would want to know all I could about those I share my religious faith with and if I was not comfortable around them, I would maybe look elsewhere for a differnt church
2006-12-01 12:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Punkie'sDad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...it sounds like you don't want to get to know them because you're pretty sure you won't like them when you do.
Why would you want to go to a church where you're pretty sure you wouldn't really like most of the people anyway. The only way to "like" them is to keep a superficial relationship with them. Yuck. If I were you, I'd find a church where I genuinely like the people.
2006-12-01 12:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Laptop Jesus 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am confused. IF I understand what you are saying you are involved in your church but only to the extent that you do not really know it. If these are people you wish to associate with freely it would be a good idea to get to know them better. The Bible tells us Bad association spoils usefull habits.
2006-12-01 12:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ish Var Lan Salinger 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it is many ppl in churches who are deceived: believe churchy lies like you too can have partiality from an impartial God, and believe Christmas lies like it's the birth time of Jesus.
The biblical exhortation is to "come out from among them".
As for Christmas, it has more lies to it than most holidays.
The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.
2006-12-01 12:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in getting involved w/ a group of that kind, then go! If you have friends in that group, and you'd like to hang w/ them then I'd go, but don't put yourself in an awkward situation!
2006-12-01 12:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by Carpenter's Daughter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's take the religious question out it. If this was any other group of people, would you go? If you are uncomfortable with this group, do not attend.
2006-12-01 12:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Darlene G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for the invitation and, if you don't have other plans, accept! You can always leave early if you feel uncomfortable. If you feel uncomfortable with the people in your church, find another!
2006-12-01 12:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking??? Is this wrong?? Uh, do you pay any attention to your Lord??
I find it shockingly hilarious that you fear being judged BY YOUR CHURCH - they very people that claim to follow God's laws..... It is even funnier that you have already passed judgement on them by saying that they are different than you - so getting to know them more might possibly lead to you despising them.
Anyone for a bowl of wholesome, cruchy HYPOCRITES this morning??
2006-12-01 12:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋