ok i was at church, but it's not my usual church it's the one i go to when i'm going to be late to my regular church. there were giving the first collection basket which i gave to and in the second the priest said that this collection would be one to help the Pro-Life movement. well i'm Pro-choice which doesnt mean i'm Pro-abortion. so i didnt give to that collection...Mind you that this church is a very small church, like 10 people. this pregnant woman, whom i am acquainted with, pointed me out and was saying that oh i'm not a true catholic, i'm against God and blah blah blah...and i'm like look ur judging me and i have my reasons not to give to the collection that i am prolife which doesnt mean that i am for abortions and i starting eplaining to her and all of that my position but she woudnt listen to me...thne i pointed her out! i'm like with a sec you're pregnant and u dont have a wedding band on meaning you're not married...waht happened there? if i'm against God for doing this ar
2006-12-01 04:27:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
then you are also against God! she started crying and people kept on telling me that I was the one who was judging her which is not true she atacked me first! i dont tihnk this was right or justified! i know i'm going to get thumbs that cause i am prolife but i dont tihnk what she did was right and it was judgemental!
2006-12-01 04:29:03 · update #1
i am an acquatance of her [i dont tihnk that's spelled right] so i KNOW that she isnt married.
2006-12-01 04:44:43 · update #2
No, it wasn't right. But it was only one person. Try not to let it ruin your day. And I'm proud of you for standing up for your beliefs and not being intimidated into giving to something that you don't believe in.
Next time, you might try the approach of "That's between me and my god." And then stare her down. If she tries to argue, just keep repeating that.
2006-12-01 04:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by Laptop Jesus 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Isn't there one single christian in that church? That was an awful display. You did ask other questions. The answers have to be between you and God. Abortion is a terrible thing, I am pro-choice until the choice have been made then I want people to stick to their word. After a woman has said yes enough to find herself in a position that the pro-choicers say she can end her child's life in an abortion I think the decision has already been made. Ok, now out of wedlock pregnancy. Where was the man. She and he have put the cart before the horse but they can still live a christian life, It will mean becoming a family, working together to build a life before the Lord if the man is gone.. She has committed sin, she needs to humble herself before God confess it and gain his forgiveness. The two of you having a cat fight at church on who is the biggest sinner is sin in it's self. You both need to take the up with Christ. Your political views are your views and if you think the glorify God keep them. If they don't review you views and make yourself right with God on that too.. First things first confess to all who were involved in the fight that it was a sinful reaction and you are sorry. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF THE OTHER WOMAN IS SORRY. You must be concerned with your walk with God not hers... I'll pray you will have the strenght to follow Jesus in this matter... Jim
2006-12-01 04:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
People are quick to judge others...especially people they don't know. I wouldn't worry about it. I don't think it's right, and I probably would have said something back to her as well.
I would just stop going to that church. I thought collection plates were only for giving to the church, not for funding different "movements". That just goes to show the pro-lifers that this IS a religious issue, regardless of what they say.
But anyways, back to the question...there is a possibility that she was married (just FYI), and her fingers were too swollen to wear her rings (I had a baby 10 months ago...I haven't worn my wedding ring/engagement ring since I was ONE month pregnant).
I would just ignore things like that. You are there for a reason. If they have a problem with your choices, then it's their issue. They are the ones not secure enough with their beliefs and themselves to understand that people will believe different things.
2006-12-01 04:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Heck if I know! 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You should have just said you ran out of money and if that didn't work you should have said God is great and so is abortion.
But that's what you get when you join a cult, you have to follow the rules and it was shameful of you pointing out she was an unwed mother to be caring a bastard child, poor little guy you hurt it's feeling they can hear you know. be a women and speak your mind
Edit,
do you people realize you are judging the people she was at church with a one sided story, cults the anti-Christ will have a field day with you people
2006-12-01 04:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by man of ape 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Heck no, you are right on! I'm pro choice, but not pro abortion, and I don't think that there is only one thing to believe on every single issue on the world. Plus, you don't know how they'd use that money. I think even the prolifers should consider the health of the mother, or if the child was a product of rape or incest, but some of them don't.
2006-12-01 04:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by Gothic Shadow 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Two wrongs never made a right. Your attack was a re-action to her opinion. In the long run, how much does that matter to you? Ego acts where spirit can calm the savage soul. You owe no one an explanation of your actions...it is called an offering...because you are offering your resources.
2006-12-01 04:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She had no right to single you out for not putting money in the political plate... never mind that a church has no right to HAVE a political plate in the first place.
But I also think it was harsh of you to attack her personal situation, while it may be true, she started an arguement and you didn't need to perpetuate it. What's up with people ripping on each other at church, doesn't that defeat the whole point?
2006-12-01 04:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by zmj 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
first no one should be watching when you put money into the collection plate. that's just rude.
second if she had a problem with you she should have talked to you, and not made such a public display.
third you were also wrong. just because she was stupid doesn't make what you did right.
fourth this is one of the reasons that i don't attend church.
blessed be
2006-12-01 04:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
WOW, that anyone even cared whether you gave for ANY offering is astounding to me!! It's none of their business and very rude!! You don't have to justify your position on that one at all!! She was being a hypocrite and you called her on it, that's all I see here. I don't see that you attacked her, I do think she had ALLOT of nerve doing what she did though...I say good for you!! :) but then I'm an evil heathen so what do I know....LOL Just kidding, I used to be a Christian, so I do understand how that feels!
2006-12-01 04:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is your decision to donate or not to donate.
Sounds to me like both of you were in the wrong. She most certainly should not have done or said anything about you not donating. She has no idea if you donate at other times or through other channels.
That said, lashing back was immature of you. Do you know she is not married? Maybe her husband died pulling a baby out of a burning building.
2006-12-01 04:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Adoptive Father 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
suggest you not let this situation bother you. this situation happened to me once as there was a second offering for a cause I didn't believe in so I placed a penny in the collection plate. this way if anyone noticed I could honestly say " I gave " to the collection.
2006-12-01 04:42:29 · answer #11 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋