I just saw one of my ex-boyfriends a couple of weeks ago and I want to wish him a happy holiday's. I did send him a Happy Thanksgiving text to say, "Happy Thankgiving", and he responded back. Do you think I should send him a card in the mail or just send him a text at Christmas saying, "Merry Christmas".
2006-12-01 04:25:32 · 22 answers · asked by Kemma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Christmas card.. its a nice gesture..
2006-12-01 04:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by 920135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text A Christmas Card
2016-12-12 08:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're interested in trying to remain friends with this guy. Kudos to you on that - most people have to eliminate all traces of the former relationship or they're afraid they haven't sufficiently "moved on". I used to be that way, but I got over it, and I've been happier for it.
I say go ahead and spring for the real card. It's only a couple of bucks at the worst, and in this day and age where about the only things that come in the mailbox anymore are bills and junkmail, it's often a very pleasant surprise to get a card or handwritten letter.
Just make sure to keep the card VERY lighthearted and/or humorous, lest he get the wrong idea.
EDIT: Oh, and yeah, if he's in another relationship already, back it down to the text. Somebody else brought that up and it's a good thing to keep in mind.
2006-12-01 04:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text
2006-12-01 04:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Gabs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how you feel about your ex. If you're trying to establish friendship with him (ie you were better off as friends)... then there's nothing wrong with sending a card.
If he's your ex, and you're just trying to be nice... send him a text message.
It does sound a bit to me like you're hung up on this guy... If you're looking to get back with him, send him a card, with an invitation inside....
mj
2006-12-01 04:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similiar situation with one of my foster children. Her mother left her flat when she was 9. I got her when she was 15. For a long time within a few minutes of us chatting she would bring up that her mother didn't want her, that she (the mom) said that she never wanted children and wished she hadn't had any. Then my daughter (not foster anymore) would look at me and ask if I would be her "mommie" (all the kids call me that). Obviously the answer was always yes! Will this effect your boys? Of course it will. Their mother who should be giving them love and affectionate and support has ditched them. They are confused and feel abandoned and unwanted. I am sure you are a very good dad, but that just doesn't make up for their worthless mother abandoning them. Don't say anything bad about their mother, they already know but aren't ready to accept what she is. But don't let them keep torturing themselves by trying to reach out for her either. No more unanswered phone calls, no more waiting for her to respond, no more waiting for her to contact them. If they feel that they want to tell her something, or share something important, have them write a letter to her (or draw pictures if they are young). Otherwise no contact. Put the ball firmly in her court, if she calls fine. If she wants to visit, fine. But the boys must start understanding that she has selfishly left them behind, that most mothers would never leave their children but she has a piece of herself that is missing and that piece is the part that helps you be a mom. Oh btw, that sad little foster child---she is one of the most loving, sweet natured young women I have ever been around. She has a good life, works hard, is considerate, and absolutely loves children and can't wait to be a mom. So while there are after-effects, they can be made to be productive. Your boys will be okay in the end. Just give them all the love you can, so that they know how to give it later. Poor dears, if I was there I would mommie them too!
2016-03-13 01:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello! he's your ex, get over it. you shouldn't be sending him anything. besides, men should send women cards and stuff, not the other way around. ask yourself why you feel compelled to send him a card/text message. do you still have feelings for him? if so, then again, get over it and get over him. you're not dating anymore, hence you have NO obligation toward this man. also, if he's seeing someone else by now, have some respect and leave the 2 of them alone. give them a chance to bond. stay away from the poor schmuck. no offense, but this sounds all too familiar. are you stalking the guy? come on!!! get a life, move on. you 2 are through. accept that. MOVE ON!!!!! that said, happy holidays to you, too! ;-)
2006-12-01 04:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Texting lets you control the tone and establish what kind of conversation you want to have. Learn here https://tr.im/yourexback
This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-01-13 02:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion its more adequate to send him a card because its more romantic and you have more space to express yourself. Otherwise if you are a non expressive person send him a text message. He will appreciate that you remember him on such a festivity so you decide.
2006-12-01 04:31:58 · answer #9 · answered by nmarrero_2365 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send him the card, if you keep texting him he's gonna get the impression that you still like him and might want to get back together. Unless you do still like him and want him back, stick with formal cards in the mail.
2006-12-01 04:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by shell7024 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Christmas card is more personal.
2006-12-01 04:28:16 · answer #11 · answered by Scooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋