I've been going out with these guy for almost a year. How long would it take to make our BIG step???

Answer 1

No one can give you a good answer to this question. Many couples go their whole lives without taking that step. Others do it in a couple of months. Both options are ok depending on the couple.

However, I can tell you that if you want it to happen, you shouldn't just wait around for your guy to come to the same conclusion too. You have to talk to him. Ask him about what he thinks. Find out if he is thinking along the same lines as you. Don't expect anything because that could ruin a good relationship, but start to let him know after your talk that this is what you want (if it actually is - you don't say in your question if you actually want to)

Good luck.

Answer 2

I take it the big step is intercourse and not some street slang for bunjee jumping or something ;-)

1) Make sure you've reached the age of consent- it's there for a reason.
2) Make sure you plan contraception and practice before hand i.e. don't plan to use condoms yet open the packet for the first time on the big day/night otherwise there may be big confusion and big mistakes made!
3) You haven't mentioned if you have done other things with eachother yet, but it may be worth experimenting with heavy petting etc to make sure your body feels ready to make the big step.
4) Make sure you are both mature enough for a sexual relationship. Not just on a personally level individually, but also from the relationship level. Some relationships end abruptly after reaching this level- others blossom. It all depends on how you function together as a couple.

Could be any time really depending on the above points!

Both partners feeling comfortable, ready and in love is the key :)

Answer 3

Towards marriage?

Honey, if you have to ask then you're far from ready.

1) How old are you? Under 22? In your mid-20s? Your AGE is a huge factor in marriage. If you're under 22, you're still trying to figure out who YOU are. Were you the same person at 15 as you are now? No. You're constantly changing.

2) Dating for less than a year shows that you are still stuck in the honeymoon stage--all you see are his great sides. He loves you, he treats you well, but he also has this nasty habit of forgetting your birthday and every other important event. If you still think that fights are a bad thing, you have a long way to go.

3) Marriage is TOUGH. The wedding is fun and costly, but marriage itself is incredibly difficult. It's not all fun and games--this is life. Things are going to happen .There will be some days that you will have a hard time loving him.

4) Don't jump the gun--that's the number 2 killer of marriages. You jump the gun and don't get to know the person as who he really is. Instead you are so obsessed and blinded by the concept of marriage that you forgo any intelligent thought. Live for the now in life--if you marry him, great. Just settle down. You have your whole life. Why rush?

Answer 4

A year is not a long time really. Well nowadays it seems like a long time cause people are not faithful or want to commit or grow up any time soon. I was with my wife 5 years before I even began to talk about another step.

Answer 5

It is upto u & him. In my opinion it should just take a few words SOMETHING like
'DARLING WE SHOULD GET MARRIED

BEFORE OR A WEEK BEFORE OR A FORTNIGHT BEFORE

CHRISTMAS'

u r the decider if u want to get married also be sure ur guy also wants the same. if both of u are independants i.e not dependants on anyboy for financial assistance it should not take time.

If if u r in the imagination the big step will become bigger.

IF IT IS JUST SEX, U DO NOT REQUIRE ANYBODYS HELP.

Answer 6

there is no actual time to wait before you take the big step. the best time is when you both feel comfortable taking this step, for some people it is a year, for some its more and for others its less. you seem ready to take it... if you think that your partner is ready too, that you should take it

Answer 7

With more than one guy, it takes much longer. But, once you've made the decision to make the "big step", the more people TAKING steps, the bigger the steps ARE...I guess?

Answer 8

Should have taken care of the "Big Step" on the 1st date.

Answer 9

What BIG step are you referring to. Marriage or something else. If its marriage you are referring to you will know when the time is right if you look inside yourself. If you guys are in love you should know already.

Answer 10

What kind of step