I think my boyfriend is trying to creep around on me. I understand that he is a little bit of a flirt (so am I), but he's going around telling girls that he wants to give them massages...and one particular girl he told her that he's going to keep trying to get her and he won't stop until he gets what he wants....
the only reason that I know all of this is because I have been checking his MySpace messages behind his back. i can't figure out a way to confront him or do more investigation with out me admitting that i've been on his myspace....so i'm looking for suggestions from anyone on how I could pull this off.
I'm heartbroken because I told him from the beginning that if he wasn't interested in me anymore, just tell me and we can go our separate ways...but yet, it has come down to this...more drama.
2006-12-01 04:18:29 · 11 answers · asked by shibabigirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you need to confront him? He'll deny doing it or deny it means anything. Just face the fact that he's a creep and stop seeing him. Tell him you've realized that he's not your type and move on. Don't waste your time trying to come up with evidence and ways to present your case.
2006-12-01 04:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first off...if he is creeping around....the YOU ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO KNOW.... that's obvious that's why they call it creeping around. You need to leave him...that answer to your question is simple. If he is doing that much damage then you need to seperate yourself from his wrecklesness... I didn't even need to read everything you wrote in order to know that you need to walk away from that situation. He's not going to tell you cause he's not going to admite that he is a cheater no man does. If you know what you know and you know it's true you dont need for him to admite it and validate it, that's rediculous!!! There is nothing to "pull off", tell his a@s that you have been on his myspace, he's a cheater, and you're hitten the road and next time he cheats he should try being a little bit more careful about doing it. Then LEAVE HIS A@S ALONE!!!
2006-12-01 04:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jontue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to confront him? He's a creep, leave him. I do understand tho, I actually was in the exact same situation. I did confront my ex, he said that he was drunk, didn't mean it, it's just myspace. But, either way if he is talking to other women that way what else is he doing? Just leave him, you deserve a man that is into you, not every chic on myspace.
2006-12-01 04:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look m8 i was in a similar situation (he was txt and emailin thou) and i tried for months to work out a way to confront him without letting on that i had been spying... well to cut a long story short i couldn't think of anyway to do it other than just come right out and ask him..... i think u should do just that because i know from experience that the longer u let it sit in ur gut the more it is gonna eat u up inside.. but by the sounds of it he wants to have his cake and eat it to... so i would be gettin rid of his *** before u end up more of a wreck
2006-12-01 05:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by angelindisguise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you've been on his MySpace, do you mean you're logging in as him and seeing private messages? 'Cause that's the only way it's any wrongdoing. Otherwise, it's a friggin' WEBSITE - why does ANYBODY expect privacy on a page they display to the entire friggin' world?! And if he wanted privacy, why did he make it possible for you to gain access to his account?
And I will admit to not being the world's most wise and mature person on a lot of things, but I think his accusing you of violating his privacy kind of pales in comparison to his violating the cultural expectations of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. He'll probably accuse you of not trusting him, but it sure sounds like you didn't have any good reason *to* trust him!
2006-12-01 04:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a bright woman. So treat him like a bright guy. Tell him what you feel and what you think. if he is, well then you know. If he isn't then you can talk. Maybe he is or isn't but you both need to be open and not play games.
2006-12-01 04:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry i would have dumped that dude in a heartbeat if i found out he was giving other girls massages.....Goodluck to ya girl!
2006-12-01 04:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Due in June 2009! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know the other girl???? you could always say that she told someone and they told someone... i would just say you heard through the grapevine or a little bird told you... but you should leave... no one should be treated like that
2006-12-01 04:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No proof uh? that's hard to say. what do you gut tell you?
2006-12-01 04:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by Silly Jaro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just payback
a bad advice "priceless"
2006-12-01 04:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by J.C. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋