I've only just started 'going out' with this girl, and when i see her on monday i'll get all embarassed and hot when i see her, and try to keep away like a *****, and we give each other the eye every now and then but don't approach each other like normal couples do. You see, i've done this with all my prev girlfriends and it's terrible, so i don't know wether to go out with this girl but i DO like her. (quite a bit)
How did i just freely and cooly go up to her, say hi and have a good discussion with her while holding her hand or something, without backing down stupidley.
We're both '14' by the way so keep it simple, eh
2006-12-01 04:11:28 · 15 answers · asked by Luke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Too young for a relationship at moment. Just be mates with her.
2006-12-01 04:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing you have to do is just talk to her normally and begin to relax around her - once you've done this once then you will find it much more natural and easy. Remember to take things one step at a time as well - focus on relaxing around her first, and then you can decide when and if you want to hold her hand whilst talking etc.
I don't want to sound patronising but it's actually quite normal for couples your age to behave like this (I'm only a few years older than you) so don't think you're abnormally shy around girls or something. Just try to relax and take it slowly.
2006-12-01 17:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by hello772345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. no show of emotion in school - like hand holding or any of that stuff. its stupid.
2. you are a normal 14 yr old boy. you are shy and nervous and confused when it comes to girls.
this is because - in a way - you are too young to be experiencing thses emotions. it is ok to pursue them but understand - as you get older - you will naturaly get better feelings as to what to do.
it is ok to have "girlfriends" but understand - you cannot have the type of relationships you see on tv or whatever.
if you feel uncomfortable - avoid the things that are making you feel uncomfortable - even if that means - not having a girlfriend. just be friends. go to movies (with your parents), go the park - let her come watch you play sports, etc. and forget about the mooshy stuff that gets you all hot and bothered.
dont worry - one day - you will not feel like a kniucklehead when it comes to girls.
2006-12-01 12:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I just don't get the gist of this question. I'm really puzzled by the way you start off the secong paragraph in the past tense. Did you mean to say, "How do I....."?
I don't really see your dilemna in wanting to keep it cool with her since you've only gone out with her one time unless you got on one knee and proposed marriage to her. You know, you young people take things so god-damn fast nowadays that I can't help but wonder how "far" you've actually been going on these so called "first dates."
2006-12-01 12:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the moment you are both as unsure of each other why not try to find some common ground IE a band you both like or a film you want to see then just start chatting and things should get easier
good luck if you relax thing will happen naturally
2006-12-01 12:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by paulette7618 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, okay you are only 14 so maybe it's the ackwardness of you just starting to like girls, but that is crazy to me. She is your girlfriend for goodnessakes! Just walk up to her and say hi and grab her hand. She won't mind, after all, she did agree to go out with you.....just be a little more aggressive and attentive or she will leave you for a guy who is.
2006-12-01 12:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to completely believe in yourself to help build your self esteem. Be confident in who you are as person, then you will be more comfortable in the company of others. If she truly likes you she will like you for who you are. So don't kill yourself trying to impress her, just be yourself, you don't want her to like you for something your not right? So be yourself and let nature take it's course. Just the fact that your asking this question shows me that your a good guy, be yourself and I'm sure she'll see the same. Good luck to ya...
2006-12-01 12:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sir think alot, @ your service. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nervous disposition is common, It may come across as cute or weird depending on the gal. Just remember she likes you, so don't **** it up dude. Just go for it, be calm, think of 007 or something, what ever, be cool. Be cheeky and flirty and she'll respond.
2006-12-01 12:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, and relax. That's all you have to do. Walk up and say hey, how are you? Be sincere. Look at her (but not in a weird person way).
2006-12-01 12:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by misscongeniality711 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you're shy. She should understand. If she's not initiating, then she's shy too. Try taking deep breathes. It usually gets better with time and the more you get to know her.
2006-12-01 12:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋