My partner and I moved our wedding forward to february as my dad is ill, (He has liver cancer). The most important thing after me and partner actually getting married, is having my father there. So my problem is and although you may think it a trivial one I want to buy my dad something for him when he does come to the wedding, as I'm sure he'll keep going until then as it means a lot to him and us. He has taken my partner on as the son he never had and they are both very close, especially as we have moved back into the family home for christmas so we can all be together. So can anyone think of something that would say thank you to him for all he has ever done? I know it is a very personal thing but any interesting gift ideas like naming roses or something like that? Merry Christmas everyone and have a great new year!
2006-12-01 04:10:44 · 21 answers · asked by joanna b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks everyone! The wedding plans are going well and I'll be sure to post on here to tell everyone how it went. I love the idea of naming a star after him, so I will know that when ever I look up I will be reminded of him, and thank you all for caring so much to write something on here for me. I would love to show him what you all wrote but then that would spoil the surpise. Even with all this going on, little things like this and all the kind words you have all said make me realise how lucky I am and how the world ain't so bad is it?! Thanks agina everyone
2006-12-01 05:01:11 · update #1
I'm so sorry to hear your dad is ill. This will be a hard time for all of you.
I think if you write him a letter and tell him just how you feel about him is more meaningful. He will be able to read it over and over. I'm sure he would treasure that.
Do you have a picture of yourself when you were a little girl--maybe with him--that you could enlarge and put in a nice frame?
You could include the star thing, too, if that is what you decide.
You sound like a wonderful daughter. Your dad must be very proud of you!
2006-12-01 10:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you have to get married under these circumstances. How wonderful that you want the focus on your dad, you are a wonderful person. This just happened to the son of a colleague of mine. He got married quickly before his father in law died. It turned out wonderful.
I like the idea that others have said, like planting something in his honor. You could create a card that explains how he will live on with you and you will think of him everytime you walk past the plant/tree. Another idea might be a slide show showing his life at the wedding, and how important he was and still is to you.
I hope everything works out for you!
2006-12-01 04:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by kiki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I think this is a fantastic question. First of all, congrats on the upcoming wedding. I wish you and your soon-to-be husband the best in life!
As for a meaningful gift for your dad...I am sure that no matter what you give him it will mean the most to him especially at this time of your life. Have you thought about naming a star after him, planting a tree in his name or doing something like that? Something where even when he is gone, he is actually still there...know what I mean??
Well good luck!
2006-12-01 04:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've had some great answers here, like naming a star, which I think are wonderful. I'd suggest writing your dad a letter, a real heartfelt one in which you express your love and gratitude, everything you would ever want to say to him, in writing. It's difficult to say these things face to face and a letter will be smething that he can hold on to, always read at any time. It's at weddings where the father 'hands over' care of his daughter to her husband, so this is the point where you can thank him for all he did for you in your life. Sentimental I know, but one day you will never have this chance to tell him and to put it in writing now will give him such joy. P.S. Tell him not to open it until after the wedding otherwise you will both be in floods of tears.
2006-12-01 04:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like the idea of having a tribute to him at the wedding, naming a star after him, and giving a special toast for him at the wedding. I don't think a physical gift is really necessary at all.
My best friend moved her wedding date forward because she wanted her dad, who was suffering lukemia, to be there. Before the ceremony, she pulled her dad aside to a private room and poured her heart out about everything she loved about their relationship. Really...how often do we openly tell people what they mean to us and how we have been enriched by their prescence in our lives? She gave him a hug and ended it with a simple, "I love you daddy." She also gave him a written letter that basically said the same things. He kept it with him all through his procedures and hospital stays, and he often said that her words were the best thing he could have asked for.
2006-12-01 06:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about naming a star after him? I've heard lots of people doing this, unfortunately I am not sure where to find the information, so maybe another user knows the info. I found the website below by just typing in "naming a star". Also i don't think it is crazy expensive either. I think it would be a wonderful gift for your father, especially since he is ill. Congrats on getting married. Have a wonderful christmas and happy new year to you as well :)
2006-12-01 04:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by cmp8423 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, this is a really hard question to answer since I don't know your dad. And, can you ever really repay a father for everything he's done? I know I could never repay my wonderful father.
Is there anything he has ever wanted to do or have? For instance a trip to some place he's always talked about visiting one day or has he always wanted to have a Corvette (not saying buy a Corvette but maybe rent one and spend the weekend cruising around).
Do something he's always dreamed of....many fathers put their dreams/wants on hold so that their children's needs/wants can come first.
2006-12-01 04:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a wonderful and loving thing to do for your dad.Have you thought of naming a star after him.I'm not quite sure how you go about it but each night you looked up at the night sky you would know a part of him is looking down on you and your husband..You could tell him "Dad you have given me the world because you love me and because I love you I'm giving you the stars.
2006-12-01 07:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of let me start by saying congrats on the wedding and also I'm very sorry to here about your dad
now there are lots of things you can do as naming a rose which is a nice idea what about naming a star
or what about making your dad a Lord then he would really know how you feel about him
good luck in your life with your new husband
2006-12-01 04:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by paulette7618 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not pay a tribute to him at the wedding reception. You know how people do video / picture montages of the bride and groom, why not do one for your father and make a speech about how much you appreciate him and love him for being the father that he was. That way, everyone there will get to see how great a person he was, and is.
2006-12-01 04:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by tipper 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋