I have always been in love with my high school girlfriend. We haven't been together since 1989. I'm 38 and she's 34.
Everytime we've seen each other or talked/emailed over the years, either she has had a b/f or I've had a g/f and the timing has never been right where we've both been single at the same time. I just recently tracked her down again after losing touch for about 3 years and again, she said she had a b'f she'd been with and lived with for those 3 years.
She told me that if I'd contacted her 3 yrs earlier that she and I could have got back together. This is killing me. She hasn't said to me that she loves the guy, just that he's wonderful and all that. My Question is, should I ask her if she 'loves him'. Maybe she is just 'comfortable with him and used to him' but not in love. If she isn't, should I try and talk her into leaving him and giving me a chance?? Is that too selfish of me to try and break them up when she has a life with him now?
2006-12-01 04:05:25 · 7 answers · asked by Riff Addict 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are remembering what it was like in high school, your first love. This is hard to get over but it is time to move on. If she really wanted a relationship with you she would have found you. Everyone changes over time and you are wasting precious years longing for something that will probably never be. If you must, contact her and ask her to keep in touch but you are letting go and moving on. If she has no problem with that, there is your answer.
2006-12-01 04:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you guys have the worst timing. Bottom line - it just isn't meant to be. Don't try to influence her, or ask her how she feels about this guy. She's WITH him. If she didn't love him, I doubt it would have lasted this long. I know, life's not fair - and sometimes it sucks.
2006-12-01 13:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can make that choice herself. Just let her know you'd love to get together with her and then sit back and wait. Dont try to break them apart.
2006-12-01 12:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her, and them, along. The past cannot be recaptured. Move on and live your own life.
2006-12-01 12:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a chance win her back if you really love her it should be east
2006-12-01 12:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by lizzie_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and flat out tell her you love her!
2006-12-01 12:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by surfxaholic36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww that's so cute!
2006-12-01 12:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by dabombae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋