I knew a bipolar woman for a year from work and I loved her with all my heart and soul. At first she acted like she needed me, really cared for me and then dropped me the next minute. She had one period of manic behaviour where she slept with random blokes, unprotected, she has 3 kids for gods sake! and divorced. Like I said I love her with all my heart and can't stand herself doing it to herself, she is 11 years older than me and if she was single I would fall for her in a second. I have told her how I feel but she brushes me off.
But I can't stand around and watch her do this all the time, I don't know if i'm jealous or just concerned but I would feel guilty if i left. Also if I left I would worry about her even more. I have spoke to her about her behaviour and she says the men have some control over her and that she just wants them for sex and doesn't care if she gets an STD. She's a 35 year old mother and its frustrating
2006-12-01 04:03:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give it up already. have you ever heard the saying you cant turn a h0e into a house wife. plus u told her you like her and she basically said "so". theres nothin you can do. and in my opinion why the hell would u want to. im sure u can find a nice girls who only wants you. why do u want a crazy bi polar chick who doesnt care if she gets a std. r u lookin for madness in your life
2006-12-01 04:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by rodie5582 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave and dont look back. you would be doing urself a favor for 2 reasons. she can no longer play with ur emotions (which will not ever stop bc someone w/bipolar has these episodes all the time for the rest of their lives) also u will be protecting ur health. (u dont want, need an std that u can pass on to someone else when u figure out this relationship isnt going to work or a kid that u have later in life) and if she isnt concerned about an std then she is reckless and not only in that part of her life (unstable is never fun) and if men have control over her and all she wants is sex then u can just guess how faithful she will be to u in the long term
2006-12-01 04:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is sick and sound like she is not on meds. she will break your heart. It sound like she never had love in her life and what she has had is a bunch of one night stands. I would be VERY careful. She will hurt you. She may even give you an STD or AIDS if she is not careful herself. The best thing to do is be her friend. If she pushes you away you then you have to accept that. She is on a downward spiral and no one can take her out of it but her. She has children right let her know you will be there for them if the kids need something take care of them. That is the best way to help her. The kids deserve stability and she is obviously not giving it to them with all the different men and who knows what else.
2006-12-01 04:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a girlfriend years ago who was (is) bipolar...you can't do anything for this woman...promiscuity isn't unusual, it's how they often "look for love" and validation.
The bipolar people I've known have always been their own worst enemy...how much of their behavior can they control? *shrugs* I don't know...but it's VERY difficult to be close to them.
I had to distance myself from my friend...after knowing her for 20 yrs...I just didn't want the drama and stress in my life anymore...it wears on those around them, friends and family.
You've got to do what is best for you...but unless her doc(s) can get her on a medicine regime to regulate her moods, and counseling for her behaviors and thoughts, she's not going to be a 'fit' person to have a long-term relationship with.
2006-12-01 04:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do for her is pray for her. You do not have any control over her. She is looking for love in all the wrong places. and she will never find it. the sad part is she has children. She is sick! and you can't help her, she needs a professional. You need to move on with your life! you sound like a great guy, one day Ms. Right will come alone for you!
2006-12-01 04:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is move on. You said you would feel guilty if you left but also said she just brushes you off. I am curious about what you would be leaving when it doesnt sound like there is anything to be left. She is an adult and can do whatever she wants.
2006-12-01 04:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are a doctor and we know you are not there is nothing you can do to save her. You need to accept that this is out of your hands. She is in severe need of professional help. If you know her family parents siblings go to them and plead to them to step in and get help for her. Short of this you need to find how to put this to rest in your own heart so you are not absorbed with this because it is a dead end road you are on
2006-12-01 04:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to break up with friends, it may hurt but you can't stress yourself out over her. If she doesn't care about herself, you may have to step away and just pray for her.
2006-12-01 04:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by coko823 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be like my husband he would had been left her, but you do what is right in your heart and don't give a damn what anyone else thinks.
2006-12-01 04:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Chaka J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to sleep with her, maybe that will make her see, does she not go to a doctor for her problems? other than that i have no idea, sorry!
2006-12-01 04:08:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋