Hey peep's,
My boyfriend of a yr. is in Iraq right now and it's getting very hard for me being here alone. I just moved here in June of 2006 and he left in Oct. I'm not leaving him or anything, I just need to know how to get over this depression. I get to talk to him allot on the web and even see him on the cam. We plan to get get married when he gets back. I can't wait :-) I don't know anyone here besides my coworkers and I don't mix work with friends. You know that is a no go. Please help me with this. I need good advise about how to beat this depression.
Thanks
Jenna K
Kansas
2006-12-01 03:54:37 · 13 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jenna, I know how hard it can be. My husband was in Iraq. It can be lonely and depressing and just sad. Don't give up honey! The key to cope is getting involved. Join an aerobics class, a book club, do volunteer work, just stay busy. You'll have a lot more to talk about and you're keeping yourself occupied. It really worked for me!! And a word of advice about joining the military spouse support groups, they all feel the way you do, and most are just as depressed as you. It was awful! I recommend staying far away from that one!! Good luck!!
2006-12-01 04:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by jackie_jackie_bo_backie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, well my husband is in the USAF and he left 17day before our first daughter was born he went to BMT and he is not in Tech School. Trust me i know it is one of the hardest things we have ever had to do. But for some reason some things that really helped me is is writting letters! Writting them to him..just writting what i do day to day. See i moved to a new place right after having my daughter and i dont know anyone either! It does suck but you just have to know deep down that you MUST stay strong for him and let him know you love him more than anything and you will always be there no matter what. Nothing make me more sick than girls leaving their man when they are away fighting for her rights! Good Luck things WILL GET BETTER...Hopefully he wont be gone long! Congrats on the marriage!!
2006-12-01 12:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The military has great social services for the wives, families and girl friends of the men sent abroad. You qualify. Give them a call. There are counseling services as well as a variety of social events where you would meet others in your same situation who would understand how you feel and how hard these times are for you.
2006-12-01 12:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes his company will have a support group for families of the soldier's deployed. Maybe it would help if you became involved with that and spoke to other ladies who are going through the same exact thing and can relate to you. I find it helps to speak with someone who is having or had the same experience.
2006-12-01 11:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by briandjoesmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you connect with the other military wives and girlfriends and talk to them. They have the same feelings you do.
Also, start a journal. Write all your thoughts and feeling in there. And, perhaps you should take up a hobby like the guitar or the piano and take some lessons.
2006-12-01 11:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard on the other end as well! i'm in the army and away from my husband.... and it does tug on your heart very much! just tell yourself you'll be okay and you'll see him again soon! i try to put in the perspective that compared to how long i've been alive... that the short amount of time im away from him is nothing! i miss him very much, but i love him and know he loves me! talking to him makes me realize that every day! good luck, and if you need someone to talk to, you can email me!
2006-12-01 12:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by heaven-sin-t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are hundreds of support groups for spouses of servicepeople in Iraq. Get together with them and volunteer, giving of yourself will help take the focus off your grief at his absence.
2006-12-01 11:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is in NY so i know how you feel about being apart.....Find something to keep yourself busy that is what has helped me.......Even though my mind is still always on her, i think of how it will be when i see her again and the depression goes away......Good Luck
2006-12-01 11:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by Steven A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby and fresh air
2006-12-01 11:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by Allen L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know it hard. but always put on a smile for him, even if you if like crap. find some good hobbies. or if you get really depressed go to gym. that helps me.
2006-12-01 12:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋