A friend of mine met a guy online and soon they exchanged phone nos....the guy who was initially being a good friend helped her a lot and in d end he expressed tat he has feelings for her...but at first she didnt have any feelings for him but after talking to him for sometime she fell in love with him for his genuine approach...but once she was in love he demanded on having sex with her...but she refused...he is saying tat she is not loving him truly if she refuses to make love to him....this friend of mine wanted to end the relationship because they were two individual with different needs and concepts...do u think she should??? the guy is 34 yrs old and she is 21 yrs old
2006-12-01 03:45:38 · 18 answers · asked by Jaymey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a general rule of thumb if a guy is “demanding” sex, it’s time to tell him to hit the road. Sex is not something you demand, it is something that you are given. And if it’s not given freely, then what’s the point? He’s a domineering jerk. And from a strictly functional point of view, it’s my bet that a guy who’s demanding sex when the woman doesn’t want it, is going to be a lousy lover because he won’t care about what she wants in bed since he’s not caring about what she wants outside of bed either.
2006-12-01 03:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely don't need someone like that. He said she don't love him because she is not ready for a sexual relationship with him, but it works the other way too; he does not love her if he can not respect the fact that she is not ready for a sexual relationship with him. He gave her the big picture when he said that. He was telling her that for him, it is all about him having sex with her, then he would move on. I am proud of her for not just jumping into sex with him. When I meet a guy, I always say I am not one to jump into sex right away until I am in a serious relationship and if I don't hear from him again, I know exactly what he wanted. Best of luck to your friend.
2006-12-01 12:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should definitely give up this guy. Someone who makes demands of someone that goes against their wants is NOT showing love. Love means respecting.
Plus, with the age difference, your friend can find some really nice guys her age who are perhaps at the same point in the sex world.
2006-12-01 11:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by chemgrad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you need to tell your friend to be care full around this guy. I'm not saying that he is a bad person I just feel that she is taking to big a chance being alone with him from the way that you explain things. Tell her to make him leave her alone only she can make herself ready for that next step not him. Also when you tell someone you love them it does not mean you have to have sex with them. I have been with my husband for 3 yrs (married for 2 of them) and when we first started dating we waited until we were ready for the next step even after we had said I love you to each other.
2006-12-01 11:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a smart girl, tell her not to let anyone persuade do something that she is not ready to do, if he cared for her then he will have patients with her, by her being like this, this will weed out the good guys, from the ones who only want one thing. Tell her to keep being strong, and know what she wants in life, and she will be okay!
2006-12-01 11:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. 34/21, met online, demanded sex. There are so many red flags here it's difficult to see anything else. She needs to end it. Yesterday.
2006-12-01 11:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rvn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all....a 34 yr old man has quite a different spin on things than a 21 year old girl. End it!! Please! Demanding sex?? What? Are we in the stone ages...?? First of all, no one can be trusted, I don't care if you meet them online, on the street, in a club, in a library, supermarket....you get my point...NO oNE can be trusted. Trust takes time to build. Trust NO ONE.....and if you have a "gut feeling", thats called....WOMENS INTUITION....go with it! WOMEN's INTUITION is scary, because its usually on point!!
Good Luck!
2006-12-01 12:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by kit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should talk to him about her feelings and make sure he knows that she is not ready. If he doesn't understand that then she needs to end that relationship. Especially if she doesn't feel comfortable with him. If she stays with him eventually she will feel guilty and think its her obligation to have sex with him. That might be all he wants from her.
2006-12-01 11:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by ((♥)) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she should, if he enters a relationship with her and he just demands sex then he will probably be controlling in other aspects of there relationship as well... loving someone does not mean that they must give you sex
2006-12-01 11:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by sexxi_pink_gurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is only interested in one thing,whats between her legs.I would warn her to be careful and remind her that she could easily find some one else that's interested in her and not you know what. In other words she should dump him.
2006-12-01 11:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by plumbob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋