some guys find me attractive and some guys don' think so and i think it's because i'm not a confident person. I usually go to my family about my problems and they usually say your pretty but i have to fix certain things about yourself when they want to be honest. sometime i feel like i make myself look crazy in front of people because of the way i carry myself and it shows physically. so please tell me what you think.
2006-12-01 03:37:01 · 15 answers · asked by geneva1124@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it would help if you had a physical description of yourself. But for confidence issues, why not take martial arts of some kind? It makes you strong, keeps you fit, and teaches you to carry your body with self-confidence.
2006-12-01 03:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I basically felt the same way about myself, BUT! after many years I found the best person for me. I used to try so hard to figure out why I wasn't attracting men or any man for that matter. While I wasn't all that unattractive I certainly had potential. It seems you have potential in that you just need to emphasize your good physical points, your attitude and your overall view of yourself. In doing that, your inner beauty exceeds your outer. And what are these "things" you have to fix? Is it your teeth, your smile, your weight, your hair? You CAN easily correct those things. And try dressing a bit more desirably and more toned down/up (depending). Depending on how you "fix" yourself you will definitely attract someone, maybe not who you desire, but nevertheless someone. So start fixing up and get ready for something special to happen. (This is coming from someone whose been there:)
2006-12-01 11:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by jeannette r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys will find you attractive and some will not because it's all a preference that we have. I know I have a certain type of guy that I like looking at but it doesn't mean that the others are unattractive. I wouldn't be so hard on yourself.
To work on your self esteem I would suggest to stick with the people that compliment you and just remember that you can't change the way you look (unless you have plastic surgery but that's a bit extreme) and just change your outlook on yourself.
Everyone is beautiful, they just have to realize it.
2006-12-01 11:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm that is a rough question....just off my gut I would say your lack of confidence wouldnt take you out of the running. Guys are usually pretty easy going if your cute that is good enough. It would have to be something you do when you are around certain guys would be my guess. Send me a pic of you gstolard@yahoo.com and I can give you an honest and fair answer if you like
2006-12-01 11:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by gstolard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said yourself some guys do find you attractive. does every guy have to think you're attractive? and when i every guy, i mean every male in the whole world. do you know every male in the wole world. trust me you don't and wouldn't want to. if you think everyone has to think you're beautiful then that's pretty shallow. are you attracted to everyone? are people going out of their way to change things for you so they'd be more attractive for you? it's not important what everyone thinks. what do yo think? think about the people that are addicted to plastic surgery, they will never be satisfied or those with eating disorders, they're killing themselves. are you headed that way?
2006-12-01 11:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Not everyone is going to be attracted to the same people. It's normal.
For example, I know a lot of women find Brad Pitt extremely attractive. I don't see it. He's not ugly, but to me he's just ok.
2006-12-01 11:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it or you'll go crazy. There will always be girls who are more attractive, and it's a no-win situation if you start comparing yourself to them, ect. Do the best you can with yourself, watch your weight, ect. Just be patient and you could meet someone.
2006-12-01 11:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Not everyone will find you attractive or not attractive.
For example, some girls find me cute but some don't. It doesn't bother me.
2006-12-01 11:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is your family lying, my mommy tells me im good looking, but the sad truth is Im amazing looking, and I tell her everytime, Mom, Im not good looking, Im astonishing, and thats a fact, so if you dont have "balls"(confidence) your sunk regardless of your looks, I go out in Philly and see 300 pound women out flaunting their **** and I say damn, but no one has more fun at a club than a big girl, and its not like I would stoop to hook up with a huge bia, but I respect the fact that they dont care what anyone else thinks
2006-12-01 11:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't make every guy think that u are attractive. its diff people, and diff tastes. just be yourself, why are u trying to make guys happy? there is always gonna be that person who gonna say r ugly. so stop stressing over it, looks aren't everything.
2006-12-01 11:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋