Me and my long-time girlfriend recently broke up. The thing is her birthday is coming up and before we broke up I bought some really expensive tickets. I havent given her the tickets yet. should i ask her if she still wants to go or should i just sell them or take someone else. we are still friends but dont speak much since the breakup, please help
2006-12-01 03:28:37 · 12 answers · asked by Creston M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
read carefully .....hope you understand what i am trying to tell you..there is a diffrence beetween being nice and a diffrence with letting ppl step on you once and twice....or all over.....i hope you understand where im coming from.nah don't take her . once its over it over, the truth is you are not over her and you need get over her. whatever happen by your first few words i could tell she broke up with you. don't take her take somebody else. why would you take her specially when you guys don't really talk. it sounds like you are always after her for a change let her come to you. don't be stubborn this method of her was once use only by guys in the old times... "the i treat you like shi*t the more u come"method and then the" treat you nice to get what i wnt"..i am making conclutions out of your past relationship without knowing what really happen. the truth is you need to move on because somebody else is missing the chance with you and specially in a expensive game. what's the point of taking her when its over so you can make things work?????once you tried you tried and there is only so much you can do....the first impression that a girl gets is that your trying to buy her or and have intention of going back with her and your having difficulties of moving on.. so your nice to her. what about enviting someyone new... thats not much of a risk take... envite somebody anybody you would like to take and see that there is a new path there.....for her birthday just say happy b-day and a hug ... she's not your responsibility or your girlfriend. if she broke up with you then it's her lost not yours. if you broke up with her then its time to move on becuase that's just not right it would be as if you trying to be nice after all the drama. ONe of you's is truly going to look stupid and the other is just going to ignore or take a bad advantage of the other for their own benefit. be smart ......don't just try to be nice..... instead treat somebody nice who really treats you nice.maybe you think that she didn't treat you bad but ..do realize that its over ..instead of making the same mistake learn from them....there is better offers, better chances. there is nothing worng by not taking her anymore ... i mean it is over & a real friends keep real communication without letting the past interfere... face it she is just your x you keep talking to, and giving the tickets to her for her birthday would be nice but only benefits her. next time buy something less expensive for you other next girl that way you won't fall in the same thing
2006-12-01 03:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by gina g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should offer her the ticket and explain that you bought them for the two of you to go together. Depending on what her reaction is, tells you whether she wants to go with you or if you need to find someone else. seems how it was a long relationship, I don't think that she would just want to cut all the strings between you to. But just see how things go.
2006-12-01 03:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by autumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever feels best to you. If you want her to have them, give them to her. If you think it wouldn't be awkward, you could ask her to go with you- although that really sounds awkward if you recently broke up. If you want to go, invite another friend- maybe they would buy one of the tickets off you.
2006-12-01 03:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, i say be the bigger man and give her the tickets...like Yessss said, you bought them with your heart and not your pocket. i would give them to her, tell her you bought them with you two in mind, but now that you broke up they are hers and she can take anyone with her...maybe she will think you are so sweet for following thru with them that she will ask you to come with her and who knows...maybe there will be some great make-up sex after the show!
2006-12-01 05:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if you still are friendly and you would like to take her, especially if it is an event that you believe she would really enjoy, then ask her. But be prepeared she will very likely believe it is an effort to get her back. Good Luck and Have Fun!
2006-12-01 03:49:27 · answer #5 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you bought them for her why don't you give them to her and let her decide who she takes. It was a gift to make her happy right?
2006-12-01 03:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by cromswife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay close friends, taking her would help cover things over... if not, then take someone else!
2006-12-01 03:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her if you don't feel comfortable going with her give her the other one and let her take somebody else.
2006-12-01 03:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm, tough one.
Sell the tickets. Buy yourself somethin nice.
You have no ties to her now. Ya'll are broken up. Let it be.
2006-12-01 03:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say give them to her and let her choose who she wants to go with, its always the thought that counts and since you bought it with your heart and not your pocket, you should follow thru on that. hopefully things will be better for you guys.
2006-12-01 03:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by yesssssssss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋