I recently moved into a two bed apartment for six months only. My boyfriend lives about 2/3 miles out the road. I am only in my second week of apartment life. He has stayed every night eventhough he hasnt moved in any of his stuff. I bought food worth 70 euros the other evening and he gave me 20 towards it. He doesnt have breakfast just the occasional snack at night. Should he contribute a little to the rent or not???
2006-12-01 03:04:01 · 27 answers · asked by sunny01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move into his place for a while
2006-12-01 03:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He figures that because he is your boyfriend that he can just do whatever he wants. It is your apartment, you are the one in control here. Once you start encouraging him to do whatever he wants, he will start taking advantage and it will get worse. He is not obligated to pay anything as he don't actually live there. You can either tell him you don't want him to stay every night like he lives there and not help you or you can ask him if he wants to move in. If he does want to move in, DON'T put him on your lease because if something happens, you can not get him out because his name will be on it. However, if he decides to live there, MAKE SURE, you have a written agreement between the two of you that he will pay half the rent and half of all the bills. Make sure you list each bill that needs to be paid and how much you should pay and how much he should pay for each bill and have the document NOTARIZED. Don't forget, have it NOTARIZED at a notary public where you both have to sign it infront of a notary. This makes the document legal and can be used in court in the event that he lives with you and don't own up to his part of the bills. That way, anything you end up having to pay on your own, can be reimbursed by him through the court. The NOTARY is very important. Verbal agreements don't work in court. A notary can be found in many different places like a place that does taxes, a law office, a drug store, etc. If you feel now that he is not being responsible and you think he will be the type to use you, DON'T let him move in or hang around there every day. You must be strong and put down the rules now before it is too late. Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 03:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's for you to decide. There already is a trend here since he's been doing this for the past couple of weeks. If you feel that he should be paying more, whether it be for food, hydro or part of the rent, then you need to bring it up in the very near future. The longer you go without saying anything, the longer he will think that this is okay.
2006-12-01 03:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not. His name is not on the lease, he's only there for a limited amount of time, & none of his stuff is there so he's not really a tenant of your apt. But if you want to move him into your apartment with you, you can consult your landlord and sign him up on your lease and he will pay duel rent with you. Might help you financially cuz 2 bedroom apts have higher rents than 1 bedrooms apartments.
2006-12-01 03:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cuddly Lez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often did you stay at his place before you got your own? Did he want you to "pitch in" for your room and board when you crashed with him? I would say no because with or without the boyfriend you still have to pay the rent. He gave you a little towards food and that's fair.
2006-12-01 03:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you move pretty quick don't you. I don't think he should pay rent unless he moves in. If he is there everynight, talk about him moving in. If the decision is that he will move in, before he does, write down what his responsibility toward rent, food and bills is going to be. This way you have a contract should you ever need it and it is clear to him exactly what is expected of him financially. Good Luck!!
2006-12-01 03:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and he need to set some boundaries. It probably wasn't a thought before now. He's taking advantage of you and unless you want this to continue for 6 more months - you need to talk with him. Do you want him to spend the night? If not - let him know. It's YOUR place and YOUR money......he may think he is entitled to something if you have him contribute rent. That's not a good idea.
2006-12-01 03:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. He doesn't live there, and if you don't want him to spend the night, you have the option to tell him to go home. If He's eating you out of house and home I would charge him for food, but if all he has is the occasional snack at night, I wouldn't even ask for that.
2006-12-05 02:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have him "officially" move in, then he should pay some of the rent. As it is, though, you shouldn't ask him to pay rent, because he's not living there, he is just spending the night. He is just visiting. You do have every right to tell him that you want some privacy, though.
2006-12-01 03:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
The think, is that he has not really moved in. So, you should not charge him, at the end you decided to move there and you are not living together. He could give you some money or make you a gift, as at the end he is enjoying your house, but not more.
2006-12-01 03:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by www.tr-avel.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you contribute money towards his. No way man. I'm sure you have asked him to stay the night during those two weeks.
2006-12-01 03:08:12 · answer #11 · answered by kjhenkel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋