How can I get my son to poop in the toilet?

Question

As far as urinating, he is very good about using the toilet, has been for about 6 months now. When I see him acting like he is trying to go poop I quickly get him onto the toilet, but all that accomplishes is him thinking he is in trouble and nothing happens. I have tried sitting a chair in front of the toilet and sitting in the bathroom with him but was worried that making him stay on the toilet for too long could be considered abusive (had him stay on for about 45 minutes). Almost immediately after I allowed him up, he pooped in his underwear. To the best of my knowledge he has not yet ever pooped in the toilet (he may have for either his daddy or for the sitter and they had forgotten to tell me) so I am wondering if getting him to do it just once so that he can see it will be all that is needed for him to start doing it all the time. Any suggestions or advise would be greatly appreciated. (By the way, he is 5 years old)

Answer 1

He is defiantly old enough to be ready. But this is his issue now, not yours. If you insist, he will resist. He is in control. Let it go for a few days. Make sure he is in clothing that he can get on and off without any help. When you feel he is about to have a bowel movement, say to him “It seems like you need to use the bathroom.” Say nothing more than that. If he soils himself, hold him responsible for the cleanup. Say to him “It looks like you need to change.” Give it no more attention. I know it will be a little hard for you but don’t give in. He can shake the poop into the toilet, rinse them out, put them in a bag and into the laundry, clean his body (take a bath if necessary), and put on clean clothing. He will soon learn that it is much easier to use the toilet. Hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 2

I would try to give treats and special rewards like McDonalds Happy Meals. That worked on my son (who is 3). Try that and if it doesnt work, then put on pull ups under his underwear.

Answer 3

I don´t know, sorry.