its very sucks....
>>the frens i have in Y messenger kept going offline when i start to IM them
>>why r they so snob and afraid??
>> I just wanna chat with them..not bitting them or harassing them
>>pls chat with me i m very lonely coz i have just break up my relationship with my bf...be my company....:-((
2006-12-01 02:53:58 · 7 answers · asked by mysterious girl this year!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you are having a tough time dear. Frankly speaking here are the 5 most likely explanations for the behaviour you are experiencing:
1) coincidence - you are so desparate to chat, that anyone that needs to go before you get a chance to talk, you are taking personally. It could just be that they actually need to go.
2) emotional fatigue - you make them uncomfortable because you are so lonely; you are draining your new chat friends emotional resources too much. They are online to have fun, not get depressed by your issues (they already have their own)
3) communication issues - I had a hard time following 100% of your IM diction; some of it is standard IM shortcuts, some of it is grammar mishaps and some of it is bad spelling. All these things distract readers and confuse them. Take more time to carefully phrase your IM's. That will help your "frens" to read it and not get eye strain/brain damage from your IM's.
4) weak relationship bonds - IM "frens" are notorious for being disloyal. Many do not feel they truely know you because you are only text on a screen for them. You are there to entertain them. When you cease to be entertaining, they want to run and hide.
5) A combination of the top 4 - I promised 5 reasons, but, the top four reasons are so powerful that you can explain 90% of the behaviour you are seeing from these four factors alone.
I know this wasn't a particularly well sugar-coated answer, but, I hope you will find it useful. I suggest that you have realistic expectations from your friends on-line. Have fun with them. Don't expect them to solve your problems. Don't be sad when they dissappear. Just discover new friends...
2006-12-01 03:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Indy Mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you're a drag. Just mentioning that you want people to IM you because YOU are lonely is selfish and pathetic. They might not want to hear you whine and complain, as that just brings them down and ruins their day.
Try being more positive and having a conversation about someone besides yourself and your exboyfriend.
Just a thought.
2006-12-01 10:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ill chat with you anytime. My aim is J140man62, Im always up for a knew friend, or to talk about anything.
My name is James Long and i will gladly be your friend.
-James
2006-12-01 10:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by jameswilliamlong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could just be a problem with your computer, but maybe they are busy, if they don't want to talk to you then that is there problem ignoring you when you have a problem. if you need to talk to some one you can im me, even though i'm a stranger
2006-12-01 10:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you pissed them off in some way? Who knows???
2006-12-01 10:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they hide they are not your friends
find new ones.
2006-12-01 10:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by screaming frenzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't understand ur felings,ur thought.
2006-12-01 11:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by vishal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋