she broke up with me 3 weeks ago after 4 years together i went to the bank and she was 3 in front of the cue she came out and joined me and asked how i was and was just talking to me why!!!!!! when i do love her but don' want to see her at the moment it's to hard but she gave me a big smile when she saw me is this normall when she broke up with me she did say that she wanted to take things slow and try and save the relationship but i pushed her for a time scale like anyone would and she said it's over and she did call after a week to meet for a drink and chat for 1+half hours any help!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-01 02:31:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have read through all your questions and your situation sounds so very similar to mine. i got out of a 6 year relationship about 2 months ago. the very best advice i can give you is to tell her that you cant talk to her now because you want to let her figure stuff out and it drives you nuts when you see her or talk in this context. i tried the talking and hanging out thing and it goes nowhere exept to reaffirm that pain that she doesnt want to be with you now. ive tried cutting off contact, but wasnt able to keep it up. we both need to try our best at this. absense makes the heart grow fonder. that is as long as the good memories outweigh the bad. feel free to email me and we can help eachother through this. but believe me when i say its better to avoid talking to her and not showing all your cards
2006-12-01 10:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Nicholas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she calls to chat tell her you don't have time, you have to go pick up your new gf at work or something. As for the drink, say "I don't think my new gf would like that very much, sorry!" and when you run into her out in public, say "I'd love to chit chat, but I'm kinda in a hurry, I wanna go meet my new gf for coffee, drink whatever" CYA......don't sit around telling her you still miss her, want her anything. She may just be the soft type, sorry she had to dump you, but still doing it just the same. Maybe she likes seeing you in torment, yes, some girls like knowing their ex hasn't moved on or gotten over them.....just in case they have a twinge and want you back for 2 minutes. Now get busy finding another gf, this ones jerking your chain and you are letting her. Don't give her another opportunity. Start a callege class, volunteer at church or a charity, be BUSY BUSY BUSY and you will meet someone that will make your ex turn green with envy that she dropped you, the best darn boyfriend EVER! Good luck!
2006-12-01 02:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the space that she needs. Don't push her into giving you a timescale, because she probably doesn't know herself. Be classy and take things one at a time. Let her go for a week, then give her a call saying that you just wanted to make sure she is ok. It is not such a bad idea for the two of you to stay apart for a while after 5 years of dating. People change and so does their perception of others. You are not the exception.
2006-12-01 02:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick a fork in it, you guys are done. Quit waiting around being her emotional sponge while she's out f*cking other guys. Grow some ballz or ask for yours back and move on. Most girls don't want to hurt your feelings so they drag things like this out and make it worse for the guys in the long run cause you think you have a chance to get back together, but it will probably never happen.
2006-12-01 03:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by The Mullet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she is looking for is to restart and rebuild you friendship. If she is still interested, she may be wanting to wait and be sure that the two of you have more than just a physical attraction.
My suggestion is to see where it goes, but don't push the issue of dating. Try to just be a friend for the time being and let her tell you when, and if, she is ready to rekindle your relationship.
2006-12-01 02:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is ditzy. She wants to go swimming in the deep while keeping one foot on the shore. Push her on in. There's more fish in the sea and that includes for you too. Time will heal the hurt. Don't dare let her play you. She will continue to use you and hurt you. I am sure you have lots of wonderful qualities to offer a girl who will treat you right. Good luck dear and remember, this is not your life, ...it's but one moment in time in your life.
2006-12-01 02:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by Catie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she still have good memory about you. I think two of you had good time together in the past. You should try again. cheer!
2006-12-01 02:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by boathouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she still has feelings for you or she just values the friendship you two shared.
2006-12-01 02:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she still wants you but she just wants you to slow down so she dumped you for awhile
2006-12-01 02:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋