My mom is thinking about remarrying to this really cool guy. And we were talking last night and she asked me "Do you think it's unhuman to have second thoughts after you've said yes?" Of course I couldn't answer, but does anyone have any ideas what it could mean. 'Cause I know my mom loves this guy and I know he loves her. And I just want her to be happy.....
2006-12-01 02:29:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Marriage is a huge decision and shouldn't be taken lightly...especially if she's been hurt before in a marriage relationship. It's perfectly natural to have second thoughts on a life-altering decision. In the end, if she loves him that's all that matters. If she is having doubts, ask her what is was that made her say yes in the first place. I'm sure that will help her realize if she is making the right decision for her and her family or not. :0)
2006-12-01 02:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is completely normal to rethink one's answer. I don't think that means that she will necessarily change her mind. But there could be lots of reasons she might be reconsidering. If she has been on her own for a while, maybe she sort of likes that to a certain extent -- you know, being in charge of her own life and getting to make her own decisions without having to negotiate with another person. That doesn't mean she doesn't love him, but sometimes changing one's lifestyle can be a little disconcerting. I think that if you and your mom are close and have a good friendship, she will feel more secure and certain about whatever choice she realizes is best for her. Good luck to your mom; she is lucky to have a daughter that loves her so much.
2006-12-01 02:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by MDG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unhuman? No. Normal? Yes. Something to worry about? No.
2006-12-01 03:24:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Second thoughts (also known as "wedding jitters", "cold feet", etc) are COMPLETELY normal. Especially if she is nearing the actual date, instead of giving her a "yes hes so perfect for you" speech ask her to tell you why she said yes in the first place... what is it that she loves about him...? She will remind herself the great things about him and probably will feel better for the memories themselves.
2006-12-01 02:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was just "venting" not really looking for an answer from you. How would you know if you've never been in this situation? I love my husband dearly, but comitting to someone is hard to do and I understand her feelings. She's just nervous, tell her that. Remind her how much he loves her and how she feels for him. I think it's natural for anyone to feel that way. Godloveya.
2006-12-01 02:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal, and whoever tells you they didnt have second thoughts is a liar. If they are meant to be, it will work out, if not, they just move on. Just because he's "cool" doesn't mean it will work. I'm sure she'll make a good decision.
2006-12-01 02:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everybody has second thoughts it's human nature. You just have to decide whether those second thoughts are bad enough to give up the marriage.
2006-12-01 02:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by ninja boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between having "second thoughts" and "a bad feeling" about something.
Second thoughts are normal. But if something is "just not right" then that's your instict telling you something.
2006-12-01 02:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does she HAVE to get married? Something happens when the cage door shuts and locks. Maybe they can both live in the same house without shutting the door and locking it?
Knowing your partner can walk out at any given moment keeps you always trying to win them over each day...very satisfying to have someone stay because they WANT to, and not because it's too expensive to divorce.
2006-12-01 02:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.... EVERY GIRL I KNOW who has gotten married has had second thoughts. Its just something you have to do and hope for the best. Unless there is any reason why she shouldnt marry him... then Second thoughts are completely normal. I know I had them, and here I am... Completely in love and happy!
2006-12-01 02:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋