Im a single mom and Sometimes my baby boy starts being really naughty, he'll try and hit me, he'll through tantroms if he doesnt get his way. so i started a time-out thing where i put him in his play pin (w/ no toys or anything fun). It seems to be working and ive been pretty consistent. is this a good idea to use for punishment, if so how long should i leave him in time-out, and what other ideas do you have for baby punishment?
2006-12-01 02:20:34 · 15 answers · asked by bluestar 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Good job--Just stick to it.I wouldn't leave him long-5-10 minutes tops.
2006-12-01 02:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A minute and a half. I personally would not use the playpen if you intend on putting him in there to play as well. It will send him mixed messages. As for the tantrums Ignore them. Make sure he is in a safe place then walk away. No audience means no tantrums. I am the mother of a 2 1/2 year old and having the same problems. She is constantly throwing a fit, crying, screaming. When she does something wrong she sits i n time out (If she is crying then she sits there until she is ready to stop and come play nicely)
2006-12-01 12:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by arabella_noelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Super Nanny said one minute for every year of age. I also thought she said they dont understand the concept of it till they're 4. But if its working then I suppose its fine. You just have to explain to him why you are putting him in time out. And make sure you give him a kiss and cuddle afterwards.Or he'll feel unwanted and unloved. Good luck I understand what a handleful he must be I too have boys aged 5 and 3.
2006-12-01 10:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time out should not be used in a child this age, they do not understand the concept. Tantrums are normal at this age, and the best way to deal with them is to ignore them. I know that they may get on your nerves, but he is trying to get his way. Talking to him using "Feeling" words would have a better result then time-out, he would understand better that what he is doing is wrong. Let him throw his tantrum and ignore it, then go to him after he has calmed down and talk to him about what he did that was wrong. It would work better, and he wouldn't learn to hate the playpen.
If you insist on using time-out he SHOULD NOT be in it for more then a minute and a half.
2006-12-01 10:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by sllcone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The general rule is 1 minute for every year the child is. So 1 minute and a half. Children have very short attention spans and if you leave them in timeout for too long they are not going to remember why they are in there. So just enough time for them to understand what they did was wrong, and put him in timeout immediateley when he does something wrong don't wait. Before you take him out tell him whatever he did was wrong and if he does it again you will put him back in timeout.
2006-12-01 10:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sanaa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What also seems to work with my 2 year old is I tell her that she won't be able to get up until she stops crying(we have hissy fits galore). She usually calms herself down in about a min or so, and is better behaved for a time as well. Although, she has put herself in time-out before I have said anything when she knew she got caught doing something wrong. Good Luck with your son!
2006-12-01 10:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Stacey G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no more than a minute and a half. Also you may want to use something less restrictive, like a time out mat or rug. That way he doesn't feel so isolated. Or, just make sure that you are within his sight the entire time. It will give him a sense of security.
2006-12-01 11:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty_carson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no more than 5 minutes at that age. Time moves so slow for kids that small, it will feel like 5 hours to him. My daughter is 20 months, and I make her sit in her bed for a few minutes, and then come and get her when her time is up.
2006-12-01 10:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by love 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The general rule of thumb is one minute per year of age...so about a minute and a half (maybe two minutes). Ignoring also works wonders when a child is just acting out to get attention (albeit negative) from you. Also...always remember to praise him when he is making good choices. I hope this helps and good luck to you and your son!
2006-12-01 10:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anne C 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My 2 year-old all of a sudden has gotten back into his hitting phase and we grab his arms and tell him sternly "No Hitting" and then we strap him in his booster seat for 2 minutes and put him in the corner. He has started hitting less.
2006-12-01 10:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋