My "GF" completely disgusts me. I can't stand her but my family loves her and would be upset if we broke up. I have a strong desire to keep my family happy but I don't even like being in the same room as this girl. Help me love her!
2006-12-01 01:53:35 · 17 answers · asked by Joe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh this will never work out. dont you think your family would prefer to see you happy rather than in an unhappy, disatisfying relationship. if not, then do something unforgivable to her so she'll dump you and never speak to you again. your too funny, disgust is such a passionate description. i wonder what would happen if you just told her "you disgust me". would she laugh or cry?
2006-12-01 01:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by cami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't even stand her, then dump her. Having your family be happy with the person that you are is completely different than making your family happy. If you are miserable with this person, there is no reason to stay with her. Your family will get over it, but the more time you spend with this girl, you will become more and more resentful towards her, your family and even yourself. Do yourself the favor and get rid of her. Nothing is worth being miserable.
2006-12-01 09:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My dear, this one is not for you. Do you still LET your Mom cut your meat up on your plate? Then why would you let your family pick your girlfriend for you? Time to "Man up" and bite the buttet and let the girl go as your gf. Not fair to her to have a bf who hates her and is disgusted by her. And if your family is so MAD for her, let them invite her over, you're under no obligation to entertain her once you cut her loose. Help you love her? Come on big boy, you can do better than that, find one you love and sit this one back in the dating pool. Good luck!
2006-12-01 09:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't make up your whole life making everyone else happy then there is no point in living at all. If they were a good family they would support your decision even if they don't like it. If they get upset if you break up with her then they don't deserve to be around you.
2006-12-01 09:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by mattyboycommy2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to suddenly love this girl, and I can understand that. Pressure from your family can be really hard to deal with. But what do you think your family wants more? This girl that your going out with? Or your happiness? I think you should do what you think is right. It isn't fair to this girl to keep pretending you like her too. Be honest with yourself and with your family. If they really care about you they'll understand.
2006-12-01 09:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by kitkatladee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no help. If you dont love her and cant stand the sight of her then there is nothing anyone can do to change that.
As much as your family love her you have to do what is best for you. Dump her and find someone who doesnt make your skin crawl!
2006-12-01 09:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make yourself have feelings for someone if you don't. If you are not happy with her you should end it,you are not being fair to yourself or your girlfriend. Your family will get over it.You have to live for yourself not for your family! You must put your happiness first in this situation. Good luck.
2006-12-01 09:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by CHERYL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it for your parents if you are gonna be happy in a relationship you need to be happy and like the girl just sit down with your family and tell them that you cant stand her and shes gotta go
2006-12-01 09:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't love her. Tell her the truth. She may share your feelings. Go ahead and disappoint your family. You'll feel alot better. They will get over it.
Discussing this with your gf may open your eyes a bit.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-01 09:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by * Shon * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, dump her. If your family really loves her then they'd probably want you to marry her in the long run anyway. And would you really want to do THAT, just to please your family? (If you're willing, then by all means, do) Why prolong the torment if you're (probably) not gonna end up with her anyway? Do yourself and her a favor, and break up with her.
Or convince her to marry your brother
Unless this is an arranged marriage thing, of course, then you're in deep ****. Unless, of course, you can get her to marry your brother.
2006-12-01 10:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Hana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋