i have been with my boyfriend for 3years now and it has been great, but now all of a sudden he doesnt seem bothered about the relationship, we dont live together but we talk to each other on the phone every night but i think if i didnt contact him he wouldnt contact me!
What should i do??
2006-12-01 01:26:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The next time you see him, make him eat his heart out.......get dressed up and show him what he;s going to be missing out on then don't call.
He'll soon be ringing you.
2006-12-01 01:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by jessieket04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start going out a bit, the obvious thing would be go to the gym or join a class like aerobics etc this way you will be getting you mind off him and will be out of the house, there is nothing worse than sitting in waiting for the phone to ring or rushing to the phone when it rings thinking he will be on the other end of it! So avoid all that self-torture by doing gym class/swimming or an art class or language etc, this way when he does finally get hold of you when you are between your busy schedule he will be wondering what you have been up to, and you wont feel taken for granted.
Do not ring him. (well, try to resist, it will be hard - that is why its best to go out and start doing stuff). You will soon see if he is missing you or not. it could be your are not giving each other enough space and things have become a bit samey and routine-like. Only break up if you feel the relationship is not worth working harder for. Start getting an interest or life of you own so that you become more interesting and fun to be around- on the flip side, if you break up you will not be lost without him. good luck, i hope this works for you
2006-12-01 01:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by Estee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have your answer, and it is not in dumping him, but in changing your pattern.........if you call him every night, then don't. Pull off and lets see if he calls you. If he doesn't then you know that the relationship has run its duration. But don't forget that the guy is the hunter in relationships, and if he doesn't have the feeling of the chase then he will just give up, which is what he seems to have done. My advice is to change your pattern, and see if he begins to lift his head up and wonder where you are and what you are doing......Good luck, and if you want to stay with him.......pull off a little....x
2006-12-01 01:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by happyballerinagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps don't call him for a few days to guage his reaction?
As a bloke,I think just 'cos a guy doesn't call so doesn't necessarily mean we don't care about a girl. Men generally feel less of a need to talk, I think. My girlfriend dumped me for similar reasons and I was gutted. From now on I will tell every girl (I care about) EVERYTHING I've done that day, instead of "I'm fine, how are you?"
2006-12-01 01:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Paul E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to work things out and get to the bottom of the matter. Three years is a very long time...figure out what you both have and if you have built a strong relationship....the rest is up to you and how you both feel.
2006-12-01 01:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by supergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him as he feels he knows you inside-out for him to care anymore. He is probably in another relationship already. Its either you dump him or you chill on him for sometime and if, during this chilling period, he doesn't call you, then you have every right to dump him.
2006-12-01 01:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't phone him one night and see if he phones you. If he doesn't it shows you how much your relationship means to him. If he does then you need to sit down and talk about it.
2006-12-01 01:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by jasmin b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no need for you to get scared or jumpy now. maybe he has something that is eating him up, call him and meet him face to face and talk about it with him. maybe there are still some things you've not known yet about your guy. help him to learn how to relate with you better.
2006-12-01 01:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by queclove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the next step in your relationship or watch it fizzle away.
Oh and communicate... lack of communication is relationships biggest killer
2006-12-01 03:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel, about your relationship, etc. Talking should help sort these things out.
2006-12-01 01:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Maria S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋