verbally and physically. I am not the type to go running to the police either. I don't know eevrytime it happens I get totally shocked and don't do anything about. Like when he told me he was going to slap me in my face and then did I just sat there cause I was like I can't believe he did that, but when I came back to my senses I slapped him back and that just made things worse. I really like this boi and I don't want to break things off, but this got to stop. any suggestions.
Oh I am only in high school.
2006-12-01 01:20:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok honey, hi my name is ki~ki and i been in that situation about one year ago and i want to let u know something? my bf use to do the same thing to me and i am really in love with him but i am gonna tell u what i did so maybe it will help u....okay one day he hit me and i hit him back right then, yes it did get worse but i kept fighting back until one day i told him that he is too abusive and i also left him...stop answering my phone calls...stop calling him.... didnt even talk to him. one day he came to me crying on his knees begging me to come back to him!! i said we can be friends and it hurted even more than ever! i didnt act like i use too i didnt do the same things i did as his girlfriend. the only way to fight abuse is use reverse psycology. u already got him back physically by fighting back and u got him mentally by leaving him and also verbally by telling him how u feel i hope everything works out to the best of your advantage.
2006-12-01 01:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by ki-ki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to break up with this guy, because he has no right to put his hands on you. Stop the abuse now before you start the cycle of getting involved with men that push you around.
The thing is if he slapped you once and you stayed with him, there is nothing to stop him doing it again. He just slapped you tis time, what will he do next time give you a black eye or do something worst get out of the relationship while you can still walk
2006-12-01 01:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of abusive is like being kind of pregnant. He will do nothing but tear you down and strip you of every piece of pride that you have. Leave him and leave him know before it goes to far and you end up in the hospital or dead along side the road somewhere. Abuse always starts little but it will grow and grow and rear its ugly head more often. RUN don't walk to the door and never look back!
2006-12-01 01:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by party_pam 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get away now. Do not pass go,do not collect $200, just get the hell away from this fellow. Today. You can not polish a turd to a high luster, so don't try.
I'm old enough to be your granddaddy...I've been on this planet 45 years longer than you. You have to trust me when I tell you there is plenty of love out there awaiting you without pain and humiliation.
Let him make someone else's life miserable. If he persues you after you break it off, either call the police or get an uncle/brother to clean his clock. A good ***-beating might chill him out.
(This is how we do things in the South...you hit my sister, you get beat unconcious.)
2006-12-01 01:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by steve.c_50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl...he is not kind of abusive, he is abusive. you get shocked or stunned because you know this isn't right. you have to leave him. he treats you that way because you let him. if he cared about you at all he wouldn't even think of putting his hands on you. no one derseves that. the fact that you don't have him arrested tells him it's okay to treat you that way. look at the fact that you hit him back, you said it made it worse. what does that tell you? you should never hae to fight someone you love. you are supposed to be happy and safe in any kind of relationship. verbal and physical abuse is the same no matter how you put it it is and always will be abuse. you must to talk to your parents of your friend, some one you trust and they will let you know you have to get out. you are suffering from domestic violence and it can end your life. please leave him, it will save your life. have him arrested and get an order of protection. if you don't the abuse, no matter what kind, will never stop. call your local domestic violence hot line and let them advise you. please before it's too late.
2006-12-01 01:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't "kind of' abusive honey, he IS abusive. These men only get worse. There is only one solution. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! I do not care what his excuse is, it is not enough. And the fact you are only in high school, makes me wonder what he is going to be like when he is older!
Where are your parents, they need to know!
2006-12-01 01:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, smarten up. You need to see that this is not healthy at all!
I personally think you need to leave him. Seriously, leave him right now!
If you really won'ty do that, you need to speak with someone to get him help. S0peak to a guidance counselor or a teacher or another objective adult that can speak to him and get him some help.
Calling names and hitting is unacceptable, plain and simple. The more you allow it, the worse it will get .
2006-12-01 01:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you thinking? This will never STOP!!! Once an abuser always an abuser! Get out no matter how much you like him!
2006-12-01 01:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by lucyloulady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. clearly it's not working out if the best way to solve a lovers quarrel is to slap u instead of talking it out. leave him before it gets outa hand. no1 deserves to be in an abusive relationship. as much as u like him' u'd do far much better on ur own. its gonna hurt but u gotta let him go
2006-12-01 01:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by meirab 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW! if you have to get a restraining order against him. It will only get worse- tell him things have to cool with both of you and he needs to go to counseling for awhile and then you'll see about it again if you like him that much. anyone who can hit you though - is bad news .
2006-12-01 01:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by answers4questions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋