2006-12-01 01:03:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. Its similar to introducing someone to you parents except its even more important. Don't introduce him to your children as your boyfriend unless you are 100% sure that you want to pursue a meaningful relationship that could possibly lead to marriage. Make sure that he feels the same way as well. You can invite him and other friends to spend time with you and your children, that way you can see him and you can see how him and the kids get along, just be careful not to treat him different than the others though. This way, if you decide to get serious with him, your kids will probably be excited when they find out because they already know him as a friend and like him.
2006-12-01 01:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe that it is very important to keep your children sheltered from possibly unwanted characters. Somtimes someone can sound nice but once you get talking you realize that they are not who you would like to assoisate with. The rule I used was at least three months before they meet my kids, that gave me time to decided weather or not I wanted my kids to get attached to some random chick, or possibly interduce them to the person I would be hanging out with more and more.
If you were asking if you should let them know that you are dating, then the answer is yes. Do not lie to your kids this will only hurt them. Simply tell them that mommy is going out with a friend for dinner(or what ever you are doing). That way when you want to inerduce your kids it willl be an easy transition "Kids, this is Mommy's friend that I have been seeing for a while. If your children are older you can let them in a little more on what is going on but I would still hold off on the meeting part for a while; we are their parents and it is our job to shelter our kids from the things that or people that can hurt them. I hope this helps.
2006-12-01 09:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Junior G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definitely. Kids don't need to enter a relationship with u until u feel there is a future with this guy. You can talk about your kids to him, that way when he does meet them he will feel he knows them through u and will feel more comfortable. I would do the same with your kids once u feel this guy is right for u. Before u do introduce him I would start talking to your kids about him also so they are prepared. We have to keep in mind that once the kids meet him they may get close to him too and if it doesn't work out between the two of u, they feel the breakup and end up getting hurt also, so just make sure it's the right time.
2006-12-01 09:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you say your "new fella" it means that perhaps your kids saw....others !
I suppose that if you ask this question its because you have the feeling its different with him.
ITS NOT DIFFERENT FOR THEM !!
If you act in a different way it can only bring questions to them so if you feel it IS different, why don't you talk to them if they are in age to understand you have all the right to have a private life that could bring a big change in theirs !!
2006-12-01 09:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by talkingformydog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did initially with my boyfriend. At the start,you don't know how things are going to go-plus you need to learn more about him,and decide if you're happy for your children to know this person.
When I did let my daughter know about my boyfriend,I initially told her he was a really special friend of mine (she was 5 at the time) that I liked to spend time with sometimes.
She knows now that he is my boyfriend-and she absolutely loves him! (And he loves her!) I do believe taking things slow was the best thing all around for all concerned-but most importantly,my daughter.
2006-12-01 09:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should because if you let your children get used to him and close to him but after a while you are not feeling him it would be bad to break him apart from your children.
2006-12-01 09:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ruby B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it low-key - introduce him as a friend - it's good for you to see how he interacts with the children and how they respond to him - don't introduce him as your partner - if you decide things are going well between you too involve your children by asking if they like him and explaining that he makes you happy and you'd like him to join you on a few trips out - take it slow.
2006-12-01 09:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by funkysuze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think for now yes but then see how things are a month or two down the road then tell them as its best to be honest...also best they find out from you other than someone else!!
good luck x
2006-12-01 09:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,it's better to make sure it's going to work out.
2006-12-01 09:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take him home until you have got to know him better.....then tell your kids when you feel comfy about the situation...also explain to your new man that you need time to get to know him before introducing him to them, i'm sure he'll understand...good luck
2006-12-01 09:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋