s. I do enjoy the power and control I have over him...when I smoke cigarettes and wear tight jeans, but I am wondering if this is an obssesion of his that will cause problems down the road? Anyone ever experienced this?
2006-12-01 00:56:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
is his fetish strictly with you or do you notice that he reacts to other women in similar circumstances? if he only reacts to you then you have no problem... it just turns him on... take pride in the fact that you can look at him and make him go wild inside... it's a great thing ;)
2006-12-01 00:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by YourBrownEyedGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very, very bad. Cigarettes are bad for you, and you know it, and tight jeans is very much a young woman thing. That does not sound like the guy who is going to be comfortable with his wife getting older, and that would need to be openly discussed with him before you get any more serious.
At some point, a guy who has a fetish, an image he is trying to create on the woman he desires, has got to separate that out from what he wants for the long haul. Is it really that what he wants is the sort of world that lets him stay young by exchanging each wife for a younger one at five to ten year intervals? Less?
Or admit that he's a natural-born polygamist, and stand up for the principles behind the fantasy: man naturally is drawn to the younger woman, as that is Mother Nature's way. You can respond to that in a variety of ways, but one way is to be a polygamist, and not trade off wives, but add new ones.
Now, if it turns out that there is a sort of sisterhood in those jeans and the cigarette image can be abandoned without too much regret, then you may have something great. But it will always pay to look behind the symbol to the philosophy it represents.
2006-12-01 01:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, I thought I was the only one that has met someone with that kind of fetish! I've had an ex from Boston who got off watching me smoke cigarettes. I thought it was nice that he enjoyed since most people in general think smoking is gross but once I quit smoking guess what happened? Yeah....
So if you plan on smoking for the rest of your life to help this guy get off I say go for it but I'd suggest you take the other option. Good luck!
2006-12-01 01:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Tiacola Version 9.0 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not a fetish persay but just something he sees you doing that turns him on. It could be worse. Just remember that any efforts to control or manipulate him could turn sour down the road.
2006-12-01 02:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it now, You won't look the same 15-20 years down the road, gravity eventually exerts itself. Yeah, keep him fired up!!!
2006-12-01 01:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by boots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a fetish for smoking then will it still be a fetish when you are dying of cancer oh yeah that's real sexy
2006-12-01 01:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by gettin it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's less of a fetish and more of a preference - it will lessen with time.
2006-12-01 02:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem for your relationship
2016-05-09 02:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy his infatuation while it lasts,,nothing is forever! ;-)=
2006-12-01 00:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....odd
2006-12-01 00:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋