my boyfriend and i have completely different personalities....and we tend to fight alot because of it....is there any way to fix this or should we just break up because you shouldnt have to change your personality for each other?....any advice would be greatly appreciated....
2006-12-01 00:47:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay get a pad and pencil.
each day, how many times you fuss/fight, how many times you are unhappy and want to just quit, how many times you feel this is the best thing in the world, how many times he will kiss you.
If that fuss/fight and unhappy is more than 5
the reality IS..this is not working and move on!
2006-12-01 00:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with both of you having strong personalities. In fact you guys probably have more in common than you realise. Thing is, you guys need to find common ground where you can learn to compromise with each other and even make a sacrifice for each other. Sure, everyone wants things his/her way but in a relationships its not always about what you want or need. Sometimes you have to think about the other person as well. Remember a relationship is a two way street and unless both of you are willing to work at it, then maybe you should walk away. You guys need to talk about this. You need to find out whats the root of the problem and why you guys fight so much. Everyone fights, thats pretty much normal in any relationship but why do you guys fight.
2006-12-01 09:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn what buttons not to press. My boyfriend and I have totally different ideas on how a relationship should go, different religions, personalities and political views. We've been together now for 2 years. I'm not saying that it was easy. We've had some big fights. But if you two really love each other, and you truly want it to work it will. You just need to have enough want in it. instead of getting mad, laugh it off, and joke around. Laughter is the best cure for any fight. Try getting out of the environment that you fight in. When my boyfriend and I get into a big figt, we leave together and walk around wal-mart at 3 am. We know we're not going to over react in a public place, and we have a chance to really talk things out.
2006-12-01 08:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, definetly don't change your personalities to be like the other one, that's not cool. But if you can find a way to stop fighting. Maybe talk to him about what he thinks of all the fighting, then decide where to take it from there.
2006-12-01 08:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting doesn't mean the relationship is bad, unless the fighting gets violent verbally or physically.
Try to moderate your reactions, it sounds like in the anger department you're more similar than you think!
Perhaps what you have is difference in opinion but similar personalities.
2006-12-01 08:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by sapfarah.geo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes opposites attract. My husband has a Type A personality and I am very introverted. It works for us, but it may not work for other couples. If you are not happy in the relationship, why spend more time in it? It's not fair to either one of you.
2006-12-01 08:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that anyone that tries to base their relationship off of the random people of yahoo answers, should probably stop...Its ubsurd to take the advice of random people that you have no idea who they are, and that dont have a car about you in the intire world...
2006-12-01 08:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bar19one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to consider that having opposite personalities keep things active. do you really want to be with some one who agrees with every thing all the time , i mean things will get boring fast. usualy two people with the same personality will class or be really mellow and not do any thing. but if you want toend it just do it.
2006-12-01 08:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~The different personalities, I don't see a problem with, unless you haven't included it in your question?
If you can't get along, then neither of you is happy. I think you should both go your separate ways.
Best of Luck to You.~
2006-12-01 08:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear it takes just 1 sec to decide to change ourselves than others. Try and see what happens. Miracles does happen. Will pray for u both. := )
2006-12-01 08:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋