beside from saying "i love you" he dont do anything to show that love to me.Please help...please tell me why do i have to move on with my life. I love him so much others called it addiction, it doesnt matter to me what i know is i love him and i want him in my life. Why do he have to leave me when he keep on saying that he love me and he need me?
2006-12-01 00:43:43 · 25 answers · asked by anne 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was confused. Why do you want someone in your life that doesn't love you back? I went through that. Move on. Each day will get easier. Make tomorrow better than today. Do that every single day, and before you know it, you will have a smile on your face.
2006-12-01 00:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words mean nothing and actions mean everything. I can tell you that I am princess Diana, but that doesn't mean I am. Girls always want the guy that treats them like crap and sometimes u want something SSSSOOOO bad that u overlook everything, but there comes a time where u have to think about what is REALLY best for you, and from the looks of your question, he's not it! Let go, and start to learn about U and what U want! Have a little faith, and things will work themselves out, but thinkign about dying because u want someone to love u back the same u love them, is just not the answer. Maybe if u let go, he will realize how much he really does love u, and come back to u. Have u tried talking to him about the way u feel? Tell him to start showing u how much u mean to him, or u leaving, and see what happens, but I will tell u that they change for a little bit, and then they return to their bad habits, sooooo it's up to u if u want to stay and be miserable, or move on and find happiness with someone that truly loves u...think about it! and good luck!
2006-12-01 08:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on yourself and on developing you to better live your life. Stop making the relationship the most important to you because it can't be until you are developed and at the place you want for yourself.
It isn't an addiction to want to spend time with someone that makes you happy. What makes it an addition is when it is put be for you and your needs to the point of your discomfort. If it is making you unhappy, let it go and thank God and the Angels you are not stuck in a relationship that brings you down.
2006-12-01 08:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly there isn't much you can do until you are ready to give him an ultimatum or until you are ready to leave him. You have the right to be happy. If he says he loves you tell him he needs to show you that love daily. If you aren't ready to move on do the best you can to make this relationship what you want it to be but l need to warn you it takes two people to make a relationship work. He has to be willing to do his part. I wish you well and please remember that no man or woman is worth killing yourself over. No matter how depressed and how desperate you get please remember that life has more in store for you. Don't give up.
2006-12-01 08:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I am sorry you are feeling so hurt. But if your need for this man is this strong, then it could be a clear sign of a dependency that is motivated by deeper psychological needs. I would strongly urge you to seek good professional counseling with a female therapist. You can find your own sense of self worth and independence. It is important to your growth as an adult woman. Go get some help and break free from the bonds of your slavery.
2006-12-01 08:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question...he doesn't do anything to show his love but to say it. Have you heard actions speak louder than words? I believe that with all of my being. You sound so desperate. You deserve to be in an equal relationship. It does not work when you are the only one giving. Being in a relationship out of need isn't healthy. Knowing that you can make it on your own is the most empowering thing a person can do for themselves. You need some time for yourself, to find the value in yourself. You can't give love to someone unless you love yourself first.
2006-12-01 08:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by seperating you're self from him, and anything that you have you continue to be around him. Hang out with friends more. have more girl nights. Try not to be by your self as much because then you think about him, get sad, then want to call him. Before you do this, ask him what he wants. Tell him that anyone can say that they love you, but only a real man can show it. sounds like he can talk the talk, but he can't walk the walk.
2006-12-01 08:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to waste on waiting for people to realise the truth. Talk is cheap. If he's not willing or able to commit to you any further than saying that he loves you, then you have to be strong and confident and move on. There are plenty of nice guys around if you look in the right places. If you truly love him, then you wouldn't be asking this question. Be strong.
2006-12-02 13:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just saying these things to keep you around and not completely leave you. You should start trying to get over him, you deserve so much better than that. You shouldn't have to be waiting around for a boy to really show you that he does love you when there are plenty of other boys out there that will love you unconditionally. It will be hard and it will take time for you to get over him, and it will hurt. But you just have to keep your mind busy and surround yourself with your friends and loved ones... wish you much luck and happiness.... =)
2006-12-01 08:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by BuNNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned how long you have been together and I'd like to think that people don't say "I love you" without meaning it... but some do.
All I understand is that you feel awful about him, really. You can train yourself to fall out of love with a person who upsets you. It takes a bit but you can.
Just stop and think of all the times he's let you down. Talk it over, think about it, until you understand exactly how harmful he was to you. I mean, one moment he loves you and needs you then he leaves? I think he was playing the field.
2006-12-01 08:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by sapfarah.geo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋