I have just had a phone conversation with my bf. I love him to bits! the problem is he does have a nasty habit on picking up on other peoples faults and he laughs about them. i told him that i find it irritating and he said that he wont do it any more but after i told him hes gone all distant on me...
normally at least 4 times a day i get a message saying he loves me. ive not had one since this conversation. i dont want to split up with him and am scared now ive said this that he will want to split up with me.
please help. thanks.
2006-12-01 00:14:43 · 16 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's truly a good guy, then what he is doing is; he's gone into a 'figuring out' state. He is pulling his resources back inside and trying to re-evaluate so he can address the issues you pointed out.
He can't do this instantly. He has to figure it out. The result is, he's got to change in order to make that happen....if trhis is indeed what he's trying to do.
It will take him some time, and if he's been truthful with you in the past, then now is the tiem where you have to put stock in what he tells you.....that he loves you....and be supportive. He may or may not be able to 'fix' his 'problem', but he may be trying to address it, and this is how he may be doing so. I tend to do this wityh myself when I have self-maintenance issues to deal with.
2006-12-01 00:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'd be stupid to break up with you b/c of that. You were being honest. What more could a person ask for. Honesty is very important to have between each other. You told him how you felt, and now he's got to handle it like an adult. He doesn't take criticism well, I'm guessing. He sounds a bit immature.
2006-12-01 08:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there, i see people here telling u tht u were honest n u were right.... well , of course u were, but to maintain a rlationship u need to be caring as well........ abt the other persons feelings n respect....... if wht he does irritates u then dont just slap this thing on his face n think tht u r being honest.......tht isnt gonna help....... wht u need to do is to tell the truth in small doses, coz truth might be bitter, so u wont like him to have a bitter taste of tht.......so be cool, be gentle n talk to him n tell him tht if it hurted him, u did not mean it n u r sorry for it..... sometimes even minor cracks can get big n ruin a relationship........ i hope this helps u........t c n best of luck.......
2006-12-01 08:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by beaupeep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moobie, my advice to you is NEVER base your judgement on his lateness in calling and so forth. Rather, I want to say that you should be patient enough till you both meet physically, and then let him know how you feel about that aspect of his habit. You may be surprised that he has some strong reasons for not calling you hitherto. Love must be built on trust and patience. Cheers!
2006-12-01 08:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, be pleased you haven't married this person. If you can't tell him something without him going all childish then he's not very grown up and is better at arms length. Doesn't sound like a nice person anyway.
2006-12-01 08:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man cant take "criticisim" Or something that he needs to change about himself in a loving way , then he is the one with the problem.
Dont feel guilty for letting him know that it bothers you , you did everything right!
He just needs to grow up and relieze that His life isnt about HIm, when he is in a relationship, He needs to be doing things that please you and make you feel comfortable.
2006-12-01 08:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a self defence mechanism of your boyfriends, it takes attention away from his flaws and gives him a lift. Because you took this away from him he will begin to automatically begin to say these things but have to stop himself,
i understand completely why you would ask him to do this but it may feel to him like you are trying to change him, so he's having a strop. it will blow over, but in the future really try to tread softly when criticising his personality - he obviously doesnt like it lol
2006-12-01 08:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Gravy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry! We men are stupid creatures at heart. We don't understand ourselves at the best of times, how anyone else can...
Give him a bit of time and he'll be fine.
2006-12-01 08:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by welchy56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is mad stupid to break up with you for that. You were honestabout it and if he loves you he would change and there would'nt be a problem.
2006-12-01 08:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey why be stuck up with a guy with an attitude problem... believe me... you wouldnt want to end up hurting yourself... go on living and if one day he finally calls you and have change his attitude (which i doubt) then consider yourself lucky....
2006-12-01 08:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by face-reality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋