Ladies ONLY!!! Is anal sex dangerous for women?

Question

Ladies, please tell me if anal sex is dangerous. I heard it can be painful AND possibly infecting. What can I do if a guy insists on having his first anal sex with me when I know how dangerous and painful it is? Please give me some advice, ladies. Thanks a lot for your help.

Answer 1

Anal sex is dangerous for ANYONE, male or female. The possiblity of tearing the anus and colon are good. That can lead to horrible infection and in some cases its lead to death. Just like vaginal sex STD's can be passed. You can say no...and you should.
PS....it is very painful on top of all that other good stuff

Answer 2

Is Anal Dangerous

Answer 3

Anal sex hurts at first. Usually I have to drink a little first to get my body warm and loose. It's possible to spread STD's through anal sex, but if your partner doesn't have any STD's, don't worry about that part. Some people say that anal sex is linked to colon cancer because the muscles move in one direction only, but I've never had any problems and my husband likes it a lot despite his knowledge that it is painful on initial penetration.

If you're scared the first time, your muscles are going to clamp shut and it might hurt a lot more if he forces against you. relax yourself and let it be something that you want to try also. Use a water based lubricant like Surgi- Lube or KY, or an oil like baby oil or Neutrogena's Softening body oil (light sesame formula).

Answer 4

Anal sex, like any other type of sexual activity, can possibly result in the spreading of an infectious std. From personal experience, it wasn't as painful as I thought it would be. If you want to try it, you've got to relax and not worry about it, make sure your partner works you up alot and it is always recommended that you use lube, because there is no natural lubrication in that area. If you and your partner are completely honest and clean about your sexual history and std check ups, as in you haven't had an std, and neither has he, there won't be anything passing between the two of you. Also, start with your partners fingers being inserted, to loosen up the muscles so you don't feel the pain part as much. Or you could try a small anal plug that has a flared base (flared bases are important because they prevent a toy from getting stuck in the rectum because the muscles won't be able to pull it up inside of the anus.)This is something you want to try when you have a lot of time for sexual play, its not a quickie type of situation. There can be side effects from having anal intercourse, like diarrhea later that day or night. You might be sore afterwards but if you enjoyed the experience that part isn't such a downer. Make sure he goes SLOW. I can't stress that enough because if he starts having sex with you the way he might in the vaginal area, he could tear something inside your rectum. This is not meant to scare you, it is just a possibility if you are rough about it. You and your partner should sit down and discuss why and why not you or him want to do it, because trust is key. Always use a condom, just to be safe. Just take it slow and try to enjoy it. Good luck :)

Answer 5

It depends on if you are comfortable with having anal sex . If you are I would strongly encourage him to wear a condom to prevent infections andother harms and also never have anal sex without Ky jelly .. You need alot of lube so it wont be painful for you because some people cant have anal sex due to them being having smaller anals and will be torn.. There are alot of websites out there that explain about anal sex and the dangers and pleasures of having it... some are..

http://www.sexhealth.org/bettersex/anal.shtml

http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html

http://www.analsexyes.com/

Answer 6

here is what i found for you...the website is http://www.xandria.com/learn/sexuality-questions/sexuality-question/are-there-long-term-effects-of-anal-sex.html

Question: Are there drawbacks to anal intercourse? After doing it for years, can you develop any problems related to the anal cavity?
Answer: That depends what you mean by "drawbacks." Some people don't find anal intercourse erotically appealing, so the very idea of it is a major drawback. But if you mean medical drawbacks, the answer is a qualified no. The anal sphincter stretches open regularly to eliminate stool. There's no physiological difference to stretching it open to insert a finger, penis or sex toy. However, anal sex should be enjoyed CAREFULLY. If you don't, problems can develop: irritation, pain and injuries to the sphincter, anal canal and rectum. To enjoy anal sex safely, use lots of lubricated. The recipient should be completely in charge of the speed and depth of insertion. If the recipient indicates any discomfort, stop what you're doing. Don't insert anything you cannot easily remove. Observe these common-sense suggestions and you can enjoy happy, healthy anal sex for a lifetime.....

Answer 7

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Ladies ONLY!!! Is anal sex dangerous for women?
Ladies, please tell me if anal sex is dangerous. I heard it can be painful AND possibly infecting. What can I do if a guy insists on having his first anal sex with me when I know how dangerous and painful it is? Please give me some advice, ladies. Thanks a lot for your help.

Answer 8

I had anal sex once and it was so painful I never had it again. I do know for a fact that with frequent anal sex it can wear down your sphincter muscle and cause you not to be able to hold your poop in. What ever decision you make, do what you are comfortable with and what is best for you.

Answer 9

*OP is 7 years old - this answer is for anyone like myself who stumbles upon this question and/or anyone who wants to know the truth*

Saying "Ladies only" is just ignorant. Men and woman have the exact same risks when it comes to anal penetration.

" when I know how dangerous and painful it is"

First of all, you obviously DO NOT know anything about anal sex and whoever told you those things is just as ignorant.

Anal penetration should NOT be painful. If it's painful, you haven't prepared correctly. Your asshole is a muscle and like all muscles it must be trained and it must be "warmed up" or prepared. Don't expect to be able to do anal like a pornstar your first try. you have to teach yourself to relax when your *** is being penetrated - go slow, be patient and use lots of lube

-Use what you think is "enough" lube and then double it (I mean use double the amount of lube you think is enough)
-By yourself a dildo or a tapered ********* and practice. (if you can't get sex toys you can use your fingers; start with 1 finger until you can take the whole finger up your *** then lube up 2 fingers and finger your *** with 2 fingers until you relax enough to fit 3 fingers in (you can move up to 4 fingers if your boyfriend is hung but once you can take 3 fingers all the way you should be ready)

-When you do try anal with a man, have him lay on his back, you get on top (so you can control how deep he goes and how fast he penetrates you) and tell to let YOU do everything until you get him inside your *** and feel ready to start *******

If you do it the RIGHT way, anal sex is no dangerous at all (it's no more dangerous than normal sex). There will always be a risk of getting a STD/STV when you have ANY kind of sex (vaginal or anal penetration) but as long as you're educated and know what you're doing you will be completely safe.

PS: in the future, find a better website to ask sex-related questions. This website is full of "know-it-alls who really have no clue what they're talking about)

Answer 10

Occasional anal sex is not dangerous, however, it certainly can be uncomfortable. Frequent anal sex can lead to problems such as fistulas, tears, keloids, hemorrhoids, etc., nothing life-threatening, but not pleasant either.

You could ask your guy to stimulate your anus with his finger, so you can see if you enjoy that. Many women do. Then you can decide whether you are ready and willing to take it to the next level.

When all is said and done, it takes two to have sex. If YOU don't want to do it...don't. Guys often like to "experiment" with different sexual activities, especially when they are young. It is the nature of the beast (smile). But if the guy can't accept your feelings on this, he's not right for you anyway. Stand up for yourself!

Answer 11

You should aways practice safe sex (use a condom) with any type of sex you're having. If you're willing to try anal sex, maybe you could discuss with your partner that you are nervous, so he understands and can take his time to get you completely aroused beforehand with lots of foreplay. Plenty of lubrication is necessary and will definately lessen any discomfort. You can always have him insert a finger or two the first couple of times to get you used to this sensation. Then you'll at least get more comfortable with the feeling. If he loves you, he'll be willing to go it at YOUR pace. Relax and enjoy. But in the long run, don't do anything you are truly uncomfortable with or that is terribly painful.