Scared and Embarrassed?

Question

I have had genital warts for some months now. at first it started off as one anal wart and i went to the doctor to make sure it wasn't herpes and it wasn't. he gave me some Aldara or Alvara cream or whatever its called. i used it for two months and the wart didn't go away. as the weeks went by they began to spread horribly. i haven't had sex since about a month before my diagnoses, which was about four months ago. then the anal wart was really, really small and could barely be seen. i had been having sex with this same guy for about 3 yrs ago or so. i'm not a premiscuous person by no means and i know you can catch genital warts even if you use a condom. i am embarrassed at the way my body looks right now. so embarrassed that i am afraid to see a OBGYN. i feel dirty and i am depressed and scared. scred because this could turn into cervical cancer. what should i do?

Answer 1

OBGYN's see this all the time. It is more common than you think. See your Dr and she/he can remove them. With warts it is common to some time have a "cropping" where all of a sudden you break out with a buch at once. A good Dr. will not just send you home with Alsera, but will rub them with a little solution that will make them fall off in just a few days.

Answer 2

You should definitely go to the doctor. Tell him or her that you tried the cream that was prescribed for you, but it didn't help. I know you're embarrassed, but doctors see this stuff all the time, and they really don't think any less of you because you have an STI. Genital warts and HPV are really common sexually transmitted infections - the stats say that 50% of sexually active adults will be infected at some point in their lives.

The research is currently showing that the strains of HPV that cause genital or anal warts are less likely to cause cancer. That doesn't mean you don't need to worry about cancer, though. You could be infected with more than one strain and not even know it. It's important to have annual pelvic exams and pap tests to monitor for precancerous changes.

Now, go call your doctor. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I think first of all you need to look at the big picture -- what your teeth will look like when they've straightened out and how much prettier you'll be. I can totally understand why you would feel the way you do. I like the one answer someone gave about bedazzling it and making it your own. Not sure how you'd do that, but get creative. Maybe wear a cap of some kind to hide the full scalp gear. There's no way you can really hide the device in front but I'd say try to come up with a clever comeback that you can use to let any teasers know that you are above it all. Find people who are your true friends and stick with them. Ask them for their support as well. Perhaps, for special occasions you could leave the device off but I don't know. It might be a tough year for you but you'll likely get used to the way it feels and won't be so uncomfortable after a while but it's important that you not let the bullies get you down. If you don't give them the reaction they want, they won't find pleasure in teasing you about it. Ignore them of come up with some kind of response that will work in most situations. Unfortunately, nothing's coming to me right now to offer you a suggestion. If they call you names, maybe say, "You make fun now, but wait til a year from now. I'll be a knockout and you will not deserve my attention." On the other hand, I think just ignoring them and not letting them see you being bothered by anything they say will be best. Good luck to you and just wait. This year will fly by and you WILL be that knockout, if you aren't already and the boys will be beating a path to your door and the girls will not have any reason to be obnoxious to you. By the way, don't hesitate to let your Dentist know that it's unbearbly uncomfortable and s/he should be able to adjust it. It will likely be uncomfortable at first when it is adjusted but it should ease up after a bit, I believe.

Answer 4

Well, being scared and embarrassed isn't going to help the situation. Your OB/GYN has seen everything, much worse than genital warts, so go and get help. I am concerned that they gave you a cream and it got worse. Make sure you explain that and ask why that happened. Get as much information on genital warts as possible.

Another thing, where has that guy you slept with been? Haven't you discussed this with him? I'd have a pretty serious discussion with this guy, soon. If he has been the only one, safe to assume he's where it started and he needs to be treated too.

Answer 5

Immediately go to your doctor! You're right this could turn into cancer and the faster you get this tooken care of the less likely chance you have of developing cancer cells. Please go get it tooken care of it will only get worse if you don't. I have HPV too and had to get cryotherapy. It's a process where they freeze them off, I was so nervous but it was relatively painless. I had a couple external warts and pre-cancerous cells all over the inside of my vagina and cervix. Please, Please get checked out, it's been about 10 years since I had it done and I haven't had another outbreak or abnormal cells. They might even have some new treatments available now. I wasn't embarrassed when I went in to get treatment because I know I'm not the only one who has this, MILLIONS of people have this, you are not alone in this. Your doctor won't judge you, they will just focus on getting you better, it's their job to keep you healthy.

Answer 6

Whether or not you are scared and embarrassed, you are going to have to suck it up and go get some treatment. The doctor's have seen this many times, therefore you'll not be the "1st" nor will you be the last. And with as many people in the world infected with HPV, trust me doctor's have probably seen it all and will not think twice about what they need to do to get these off your body.

Answer 7

Stop. Think. Act. HPV is nothing to be ashamed of; and it's better to get the medicine that works for you and to have the shot they just recently came out with to stop the viruse from causing cervial cancer. It's not just your body but your life you need to think about now. Doctors have seen it all, I promise you! They trained many years; and spent lots of money to learn how to NOT judge or react in a way that embarrasses you. Take it from someone who knows.

Answer 8

you need to go back to the doctors because they have different type of Meds they can give you and if you take it for a while it can be maintained for a while and let the doctor help you and yes you are so right on that it can turn into Crevical cancer but you need to stay ontop of it and take care of your body it is all you have you take of of it and one you are in and tell the doctor what is going on then he will help you then you wil feel better and relax . Good luck

Answer 9

there is nothing to be ashamed of. it is a disease like others. the worst thing you can do right now is to stay at home and not go to the doctor. believe me the doctor have seen it all. good luck

Answer 10

You absolutely need to see your Dr. immediately. There's nothing to be embarassed about, I assure you he or she has seen it all......and they are there to help you. They need to be removed, either via laser or freezing, it sounds much worse than it is.......and its over quickly and that beats living with them by a long shot. Nothing is more important than your health.