I tested positive for an STD how do i tell my partner?

Answer 1

in my opinion, if anyone is intimate enough to have sex, they should be intimate enough to talk about stuff like this. but i found this from another forum, i hope it helps!



Q: I recently found out that I have a sexually transmitted disease called chlamydia (which is highly treatable and curable), but I'm not sure who I contracted it from. I was in a relationship for three years that ended about three months ago and since then have started another. However, these are the only two men that I have been intimate with.

I love my current boyfriend dearly. He is very understanding and caring, but this is just so hard to say to him. Any advice on how to break the news? --iVillager regasbabe






A: Dear regasbabe:

The good news is that the bug you've contracted is curable. So the news you'll be delivering to the men in your life is distasteful, but thankfully not dangerous to their health.

To new beau (delivered when you're alone together but not in bed): ''Honey, there's nothing to worry about but there is something I have to tell you. Since we got together, as you know, you've been the only man in my life. But you know I was with (fill in name of ex) for three years. I just found out that I have a totally curable STD called chlamydia. It's nothing like AIDS or even herpes. There's a simple treatment, and there are no aftereffects. You need to be tested for it as well. I'm also going to tell my ex about it because either he or you gave it to me. I love you, and I'm sorry you have to go through this. But we have to face it, deal with it and then move on with our lives.'' If new beau is as understanding and caring as you say he is, this setback shouldn't affect the relationship.

However, you should also use this problem as a jump start to discussing sexual histories and ensuring that from now on you take appropriate precautions. After all, he might have given this bug to you. And what were you doing not using condoms with a new lover?

Yes, you must contact your ex and tell him that he needs to be tested for this highly treatable STD. Ask him to let you know if he tests positive or negative -- that will help you ferret who gave this bug to you.

For those with the trickier dilemma of how to tell a new beau that they have a not-so-curable STD (herpes or HIV), the bomb needn't be dropped at the first meeting, but it's got to be delivered before you have sexual contact.

Outline (in a way that's as calm and nonthreatening as possible) the details of your condition -- how you caught it (a brief recitation is fine), how you're controlling it, the general state of your heath and the parameters of safe sex. You want to come off as a mature, responsible, caring, upbeat person. If he can deal with the ramifications of your condition, great. If not, assure him that you'll have no hard feelings and very nice memories.

Good luck and good health

Answer 2

Your friend is avoiding the inevitable conversation that will arise WHEN her partner finds out. STD's don't stay secret for that long usually. If it's HIV, you owe it to her partner to tell him/her or any other human being in that situation. Your friend should be the one to tell him/her though and it's down to her being a bit selfish that she's not telling him. Personally, I think you should speak to her openly first and explain how serious a situation it is and that she has chosen to do something which has resulted in unfortunate consequences. Not telling her partner will definitely make things much worse. You sound responsible enough to be able to do this so go for it and if worst comes to worst, threaten her that you will tell him/her yourself. If you lose a friend out of it, I wouldn't lose much sleep because it's the kind of friend that would willingly infect her partner with an STD. You don't need friends like that. You may say it's more complicated than that but it isn't. She's in an adult situation now and she has to deal with it in an adult, and more importantly, fair way.

Answer 3

I just went through this today.

I explained that I trusted my last partner the same way I trust him, and that my last partner must have broken my trust and not been truthful about going for an STD test. Repeat that you're glad that you went for testing, for both your sakes, and you can understand if your partner freaks out. Remind your partner to go for testing immediately to begin to start treating him/herself.

Also, remember that you both would have been better protected if you had used a condom, so maybe think about that in the future.

I know I will.

Answer 4

Two ways. Either you can do it or the health clinic that tested you can send that person a notification. There will be no names, it will inform them that a known contact was diagnosed with a/an STD and he/she is advised to come in and get tested.

Answer 5

Your partner has aright to know so tell them straight away so they can go and get tested.
They will want to know how you got it be honest.

Answer 6

you obviously have lied up untill this point, so try the truth and if your partner leaves, you should have learned a lesson, about honesty, loyalty, and love, something that sounds like you don't have

Answer 7

The best way you can, but you partner must know.

Answer 8

Bite the bullet and tell him or her. Be gentle and dont expect him or her to be happy about it. Give him or her time to absorb it.

Answer 9

JUST BE HONEST AND TELL ME TO GO GET TESTED

Answer 10

be honest and nice about expect a reaction