I'm getting married tomorrow, and we've been fighting all week. Is this normal???
We both just keep upsetting each other! Now I've gone and done it again today, by a stupid comment I made: It's a small wedding, family only plus 2 of my friends (my family can't make it), his parents are having a party after the lunch (my friends are coming to) its all going to be his family - my fiance asks me for the 4th time to not invite my friends to the party after as it will be weird, I have told him again that no I'm not then I said "I'm sure they got better things to do". He is annoyed saying I am ungrateful now! :(
What the?
2006-11-23 23:07:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes it is you are inder stress and you will have fights through out the marriage also. it is a part of being two differnt people and learning how to work together in stress to be one and not 2
2006-11-26 06:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to fight before the wedding, because the two of you are under a lot of stress, you are nervous about your day and you want things too go smoothly.
However I think that fiancé has to appreciate the fact that as you will not have any family of your own at the wedding, and only your two friends you will obviously want them to be at the party. What reason is he giving for not wanting them to be there? You are not being ungrateful you just want to have someone on your side at the wedding, so that you can talk to them and just be yourself and not necessarily have to watch what you say.
You need to sit down with fiancé and explain that although you love him and his family, you want your friends there especially as your family can't be and if the situation was reversed how he would feel
2006-11-24 07:49:07 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you invite your friends or did your host? It may be that his family are trying to cut the number. If it is just because its weird explain to him that you want to share your day with people who care for you everyone is there for the same reason to celebrate the two of you as a couple. Try to find out why he is so against having your friends there. Also remember to do your rounds he maybe scared that you won't socialize with everyone. It is normal to fight the week before you get married. This should have come up before everyone was invited.
2006-11-24 14:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal but he selfish too tell him you want someone at your wedding from your side and if it is the friends you want there well that is what he should respect. It is your day as well and you should have whom ever you want at your wedding party it doesn't matter where it is held it is your day. You are not being ungrateful just cause you want your friends there. Tell him to chill out !! ooooops second thoughts don't tell him that it might start another argument, lol Don't worry the honey moon is coming up and you will both chill out, end of stress. Good luck and Congratulations on your wedding!!!!
2006-11-24 07:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's normal; big day, bound to be stressful. You've invited everyone now, tell him you've no intention of un-inviting them. It's your wedding as well as his. Tough.
I'm sure that things will calm down after the ceremony. My husband and I hardly spoke to each other for weeks before the wedding, but as soon as the stressful bit was over, it turned into a brilliant day. You and he are 'in it' together, you will be at the centre, your friends and family want to enjoy themselves and to be happy for you. Good vibes all round.
Have a wonderful day!
2006-11-24 08:33:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell is wrong with this guy....your family cant make it so you are bound to want your friends there to share your special day, why does it have to be just the people he wants, if he cared the slightest about you he would want you to feel happy and relaxed on your wedding day and at least have someone you know to talk to , he sounds very controlling and if this is how he is before you get married then i would be worried what he wants you to do and not do when you are married, your friends are a part of your life and marriage means you share your life together so why does he get to chose? i would get to know him a little bit better before i married him if i was you as this looks like it is just the beginning of things to come...
2006-11-26 16:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw you'll be okay. It's all just stress. It's like you both have PMS. After you get married you won't fight as much.
P.S. Your friends should be able to go to the party. Your family isn't even going to be there, you should have someone there.
Congrats on your big day :)
2006-11-24 08:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Frosty - my hubby and I had our biggest argument just 12hours before our wedding, its a combination of nerves and stress and excitement! Its perfectly normal, just leave the arrangements now as its too late to do any more! Have a relaxing bath and forget about it :O) HAve fun tomorrow, itll fly by! xx
2006-11-24 08:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last minute nerves thats all, the things you are fighting about now, probs wouldnt cause a fight any other time. I'm sure you will laugh about it all when the weddings done with. Enjoy your day, good luck!
2006-11-24 07:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so weird , why would he not want your friends to be there, when your family cant make it . and why cant your family make it when its your big day, i would never get married without my whole family there, and ALL my friends, and all of them also to the party. fighting is normal but this one seems so weird.
2006-11-24 07:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by seyhay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋