If you know a guy is in a serious relationship and has children but is registered on dating sites saying hes single with no kids and telling these girls he meets that he loves them and wants to be with them, would you tell his girlfriend what hes upto As she has no idea as hasnt got pc at home and he does all his emailing at work
2006-11-23 21:34:16 · 19 answers · asked by vanessa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The rotten git !
I would tell him I know what he's up to and if he doesn't come clean to his partner, you will.
It's always going to be better for her to hear it from him instead of someone else.
However if he thinks you are bluffing I would tell her as gently as possible. Then be there for her.
2006-11-23 21:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO
People think it's their right to rescue and protect others. These situations r always more complicated than they seem. She may be in denial and would prefur to ignore it.
Your role as a friend is to support her and be there to pick up the pieces.
However it may be an idea to let him know that u know and give him the opportunity to stop it.
Good luck, what a **** position to be put in.
2006-11-25 05:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, no... I've seen many married and unmarried males and females with families cheating on their partners in my 61 years of life, I never told.
If you tell, you lose friendships, trust, and create problems that might simply not have happened, because some people go on all their lives inside affairs and never leave their partners, and sadly, what the partner never knows, isn't hurting them... and it could be, they would prefer never to know.
Many people will not want to split up, and your interference could leave children devastated because a split was forced on them.
If your colleague boasts, or knows you know what he is up to, you can, show clearly how you disapprove, and choose to be cool on him... or, refuse to be a party to deceit and make it clear you think it stinks. They get away with it and continue on the same route, because others encourage them by their tacit approval... they don't expect someone to disapprove. They think they are a clever so and so, and they value other people's thoughts even when they say they don't.
If you tell, his girl will hate you, if you don't and she finds out you knew, she will hate you... so, disassociate yourself from him completely, inside the social scene.
I never told my sisters (both) that their husbands strayed, that I'd caught them with other females, seen them with other women, not since the day I slapped one of my brothers-in-law down for trying it on me, threatened to tell my sister, but he got in first and told her I'd tried it on him... a total lie, but she believed him and we lost each other since 1969. When my second bro' in-law made a pass, I chucked a glass of drink over him and made it public... and walked away. Seeing as that sister slept with my then husband... I lost her too, my choice!
In relationships, the witness of betrayal is the enemy... so learn the 'three wise monkey's' rule... 'see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil'... and walk away... because affairs of the heart have a bad habit of rebounding on everyone else... and leaving a very nasty mess and even nastier taste for the witness, forever!
2006-11-23 21:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him first, give him the chance to tell her himself
If you go direct to her it may end up back firing on you, if he doesn't stop then tell her.
Be prepared that your friendship with this girl may end as she may take this guys side
2006-11-24 02:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i would have to say something if his girlfriend was a good mate of mine.
I wouldnt just stand and watch a friend bein treated like crap by her man !!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 23:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by CHAZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard to say. You dont really want to get involved in someone elses relationship but if it was me and my guy was doing that i would want to know.
2006-11-23 21:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by nicnac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends, is it a good friend of yours? Yes I would. If it's just an acquaintance I would stay out of it. You could print the site anonymously and stay out of it.
2006-11-23 21:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by uknowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Horrible position to be in for you, but if I knew his girlfriend I'd like to think I'd have the guts to tell her.
2006-11-24 03:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I think I would....she had a right to know especially if others out there know.....it will get back to her sooner or later and best to come from someone who cares. He is hardly being descreet.
2006-11-23 22:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what in the hell is it your business to go around telling on people about what other people do or maybe it's just that you have no life and want to get in the middle of things to feel better about you... Stay out of other peoples relationships which aren't yours and grow up.....
2006-11-23 21:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋