parent's who have boy's........?

Question

ok my son is 3 years old and my husband is really concerned, my son likes to carry a purse and will only go to sleep in my silk nightgown's. should i be worried about this or is it just a phase that some little boy's go through???? no stupid answers please, he is only three years old.

Answer 1

You know what the problem is these days when toddlers pick up what we think are horrible habits, we are thinking like adults. Our minds are so tainted that we go straight to the worst... helloooo, people... he loves his mommy & is yearning for her scent... just like a blankie or a favorite pillow... don't "FORCE" him out of it as someone mentioned, ease him out of it.. "okay, sweety this is mommy's & big boys wear their own jammies to bed"...

kids pick up more than you can possibly imagine but they are not thinking like us -- don't turn it into something ugly -- he just feels safe & secure holding on to something that reminds him of his loving mom when she's not in the room, he simply loves you that much -- so what you need to do is replace it with something else that's more suitable & maybe add the perfume you always wear or wash it with the soap you always use...

I used to love holding on to my mom's favorite blanket.. again, b/c it had her scent & it made me feel secure (as a child). So, don't be forceful, just be a bit creative... there are other things you need to be stronger on -- say, don't speak to strangers - don't let anyone touch you inappropiately.. these are subjects that need to be handled delicately but not too "sugar-coated" you need to teach your kids of the dangers that are out there & not worry so much about what he'll turn out to be if he uses mommy's gown....

always remember though, you are the parent - he does not control you - you set the rules & he is to follow!

he's just a kid - every now & then we need to remember waaaay back when we were young -- our minds were not wired as they are now - so stop your worrying he'll pick up on that!

From one mom to another your son will be just fine!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

It is just a phase. The silk feels good....to just about anyone, even my older seriously not gay brother loves the feel of silk sheets, shirts, etc. Kids in general use this as a source of comfort...a way of keeping mommy with him when he sleeps. The fact that he carries a purse around would lead me to believe that he spends more time with mommy than with daddy. Kids mimic what they see. My daughter, for example, likes to carry a backpack around because I don't carry a purse, and the diaper bag we use is a backpack, so she sees both me and my husband carrying a backpack around. If it really bothers your husband, try to get your son one of those hip packs to carry his toys around in or a miniature backpack. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I even have the two - so i'm sorry in develop for now not being on the infant purely area. My oldest daughter (14) had/has a lot of Barbies and Barbie paraphernalia. Now it particularly is outfits and makeup that are taking the placement of toys. :-S My son is into video games and has fantastically plenty another equipment ever invented (or so it variety of feels). My youngest (5 months - lady) is into something that makes noise and lights fixtures up.

Answer 4

Forget about all those people who tell you not to worry! They don't care anyways. I never did that when I was three! Little boys learn to explore their body, specifically the genitals, as early as three!! My cousin even had a erection when he was 5 while he played his little thing. I don't think it is normal for a boy to do that unless he is..you know. You should FORCE him not to sleep in your nightgowns, or ban him from carrying the purse. Do this before it is too late!!!

Answer 5

I have two sons (6yrs and 3 yrs). Both of them had Comfort Silkie Blankets. I guess they like the feel of the material. My oldest son use to carry his mom's old purse around. We use to call it his magic bag! He grew out of it and is a fine, loud rambunctious little boy

Answer 6

My son is six and he still loves purses. Face it, some girl things are just more fun. Let him do his thing at home. He'll get plenty of "boy" stuff once he hits school. My son loves pink, but only at home. He'll get pressed into his gender roll by others soon enough, just let him be himself right now.

Answer 7

My boy is only 4 months, but one of my male cousins played with dress up with Barbies all the time and he turned out perfectly normal. I wouldn't worry about it too much. He's just using his imagination. Kids at that age don't think like adults do. He prob just looks up to you so he imitates the things you do. He'll grow out of it. I've heard of allot of boys doing this and it's perfectly normal.

Answer 8

It's okay to pretend sometimes, but you don't need to give him 'props' and let him act that way. You NEVER encourage this behavior or laugh. I understand he's only 3, but do not LET HIM! You will have a bigger problem later if he chooses other things.

Stop this behavior now, and encourage the boy behaviors and reward him for those things.

Answer 9

oh you shouldn't get that worried im sure he will get out of it....my son when he was little he used to play with my handbags wanted earrings of mine look at him now his 17yo now and a fully straight teenager....the kids just want to do and see what we do . your son just want to explore the way of life....you should watch doctor phil show they had a show like your going through bout your son.... hope it all goes well!

Answer 10

don't worry, my 3 year old son puts his mums knickers and bra on. he also enjoys a good makeover session. your son probably likes the feel of the material and plus it belongs to his mum. Don't forget that your kid looks up to you and likes to copy what you do.