I really really like this guy and I am pretty sure he really likes me. We get on famously and all the signs are there but I am quite playful and talk about sex a lot. How do I show him that I really like him and want him to be my boyfriend. I think he thinks I'm a sex maniac and have high expectations. I wish now that I hadn't run my mouth so much in the beginning. I don't want to scare him away, he is still showing massive signs of interest but I can tell he is insecure and nervous around me. Please help as I really want to date this guy. I don't see him as a sex object but as a potential bofriend and I am old fashioned and think that he should ask me!
2006-11-23 20:49:42 · 13 answers · asked by Michele 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry no I don't blab about sexual conquests at all! I just talk fairly openly about it thats all. I would never talk in those terms.
2006-11-23 20:58:53 · update #1
Oh what a pickle!
Well, your right, you really shouldnt have been such a little minx and told him all your fantasies etc, but the damage is not irreverasable! I would talk to this guy on his own and maybe ask him if he wants to grab a drink or a bite to eat one time, dont say on a date or anything. When you guys go out then just let the conversation flow and no doubt it will go down the lines of sexual conversation, at this point I would just turn round and say something like
"I know I go on about it all the time, but I am really very shy, I think it is a front why I talk about it the way I do. Does it bother you?"
You will be able to tell from his response if it has been an issue for him. If he says yes bugger off then there is nothing much you can do, however if he says no then you can start and flirt a little and let him know that you like him.
Maybe ask him if he would like to go out again and take it from there! I have been in this situation before however it was my bf who was doing the talking whilst we were at work. It did put me off him a little bit because every week he would come into work and talk about different girls he had been with who he had no intentions of seeing again, it turns out that he was trying to make me jealous and that really he hadnt had sex for 14 months before we got together, 3 years on we are happy and settled! It can turn round for you, just be patient! So sorry about the long reply!
Good luck ! x
2006-11-23 20:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by SARA H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him out dont be so old fashioned. i have been asked out by women before and dont think any less or expect any more of them. what is the worst that can happen he can only say no or you can go on a date and not get on. the best is that you will be together for ever giving you a chance to be a sex manaic with him over the coming years. if he is as nervous as you say he wont jump on you at the first date so you will have a chance to take it slow. but ask him out do it do it now
2006-11-23 20:59:24 · answer #2 · answered by armaghmadman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always felt that way. Jesus is always portrayed as handsome, tall and white with long hair and a beard. In reality, Jesus would have had the 2 bits of uncut hair at the front and short hair with a covering like all Jews. Jesus would also have had sallow skin from living in Egypt and Israel and rough hands from working as a carpenter.Isaiah 53:2 also states: “He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to Him, nothing in His appearance that we should desire Him.”, so we know that Jesus was an average looking person. Other than that we know nothing else which is just as well because Jesus's looks are irrelevant.
2016-03-29 07:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you blab openly about your sexual conquests but call yourself old fashioned and are waiting for him to bust a move? You might be waiting a while. He probably thinks if you were interested that you would pounce on him.
2006-11-23 20:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a bit of control - find the "right moment" and look right into his eyes.... if he feels like you, you'll know. He is probably nervous and isn't sure how to make the first move....
If you feel a "togetherness" then.. just go with the flow and give him a kiss - but go slowly.
Boys a notoriously shy !
2006-11-23 20:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Robert W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont blame ur big mouth if u lose this guy!!! i think its a lesson u've got so next time u wont do the same mistake again. watch ur words in front of pple. they might get the wrong impression just like this guy has. dont show too much interest. u r making urself cheap gal. no sane man would get a cheap gal for a girlfriend
2006-11-23 21:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by vfm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the old fashioned way - times have moved on. Be opena nd honest and tell him otherwise you'll end up playing cat and mouse for a while until someone else comes along and snaps him up...
2006-11-23 20:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men do like women to be almost mouselike, you know shy awkward and retiring. even a bit plain. dress down for a day seriously! see how he reacts towards you. you might get more attention from him. he might see something in you that he did'nt notice before.
2006-11-23 20:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him yourself. If you wait for him and keep scaring him with exagerated sex talk, you'll never get him. Do it. DO IT NOW!
2006-11-23 23:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old fashioned too, is it time to remove the suffrage?
2006-11-23 21:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋