I recently started a new job and am going out with a guy at work who persued me for a while before I agreed to go out with him. Everything is fine except there's this married woman there keeps making snide remarks about me to my colleagues and to my face.
She ignores me but will happily chat to my boyfriend, even when we are both together!
I've heard she had a crush on my boyfriend a while back.
But she is now happily married, so what is her problem?
2006-11-23 20:47:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
J.E A L O U S Y!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 20:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Helen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the other person said she is jealous. Try not to let it bother u or be strong and tell her in no uncertain terms that u find her behaviour childish and insulting and that if she carries on you will report her to your superiors. You should not have to put up with this sort of pathetic high school behaviour. Point out that she is now married and would her husband be very happy if he knew what she was up to? Rise above it and feel proud that u got the man she wanted!
2006-11-24 04:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she may not want him anymore, doesn't mean that she wants someone else to have him! Some women are stingy, and want all the men's attention, even if they are married, I wouldn't worry about her though. If your boyfriend was interested enough in you to chase you, then he's probably not going to do anything to screw it up right now. Let her see that she's not affecting you, and it will probably drive her crazy wondering why you aren't jealous of her!
2006-11-24 04:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by doodlebugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is jealous....you have taken away her fantasy...as even though she was married she had built up in her mind a realtionship with this other man (to help her pass the tedium of her unrewarding job)....and you have now complicated her daydream fantasy.
Tell me is she a bit of a queen bee? If so you are in trouble luv....get ready to stand your ground.....let her know you know she fancied/ and still does fancy your guy.....and how cr@p that must be that she aint happy with her own man! Damn.... your work place is gonna be like a episode of east-enders....fierce!
2006-11-24 05:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by michael s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did she even find out???? As a woman, and new at the job, the absolute WORST thing you can do when having a workplace romance is to let your co-workers know you are having one, it causes loss of respect.
Since she is treating you so disrespectfully, perhaps that is what the problem is?
2006-11-24 04:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not thats she jealous its she is more feeling unattractive with herself. is she an older woman?. are you considered an attractive girl?. no matter watch out for her anyway, best thing to do is hit the situation head on rub it in her face laugh at her, walk down the corridor when she sneaks a peak at your b/f and you cop her doing it put your hand in your b/f's back pocket as you walk along. nothing hurts a bully more than being laughed at,
2006-11-24 05:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either confront her and ask her what is her problem, and tell her to stop making snide remarks.
Or, you can just ignore her (which will probably irritate the shiit out of her!) and rub her nose in the fact that you got YOUR man, and she didn't. You can gush in front of her about how wonderful, romantic, sexy, kind blah blah blah he is to you! That will stick it to her!
2006-11-24 05:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
It seems pretty obvious to me after reading your posting!! This woman is extremely jealous of you going out with this bloke. After all its the same bloke she also fancies despite being married.
**Just because someone is married doesnt stop them from still fancying someone esle rightly or wrongly!!
**She's ignoring or cutting you off, because its probably VERY VERY painful or difficult for her to even admit your actually going out with him now. (ie you've won him away from her) if you want to look at it in competitive terms and if thats true (If thats how she see's it) you are probably seen as a threat to quite possibly?
**If she cannot even acknowledge your exsistence or that your going out with this bloke, you have to actually feel abit sorry for her really IMO.
**it also suggests that she is unhappy in her marrage too! otherwise why would it matter to her at all, you going out with him?
IR
2006-11-24 05:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are animals and you're pissing on her territory, sure she has someone but in her mind she owns everyone and everything in that ******* office, women are like cats or dogs, they just mark their territory and don't care, when challenged they deny it and make out like you're the one who's mad, punch her in the face.
2006-11-24 05:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obveosly jealous and trying to wind you up.
If you let it get to you she's winning.
When she's talking to your boyfriend join in the conversation. Talk about fun things you and your bofriend like doing, ( i don't mean sex lol), that should get right under her nose.
2006-11-24 05:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your date if he notices the same thing. If you don't want confrontation with this woman, then he should.
2006-11-24 04:51:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋